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Open Question: my boyfriend and I want to get a court marriage but we wont be living together can we?
Me and my boyfriend want to receive a court marriage but we wont be living together, can we receive a court marriage? What would we need to do what would things be like for us after? We do not plan on having a cultural wedding for another year or two this is just something for us as a couple, our parents will not know and we don't plan on telling them either... this is a very big decision for us and we want to know everything before we do it HELP PLEASE !
15 Mar 2010, 1:08 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Requirements for Court Marriages in California?
Me and my boyfriend want to receive a court marriage but we wont be living together, can we receive a court marriage? What would we need to do what would things be like for us after? We do not plan on having a cultural wedding for another year or two this is just something for us as a couple, our parents will not know and we don't plan on telling them either... this is a very big decision for us and we want to know everything before we do it HELP PLEASE !
15 Mar 2010, 1:01 am | click here for answers
Open Question: long question, but my marriage depends on it. please im begging you help me.?
When I was 12, I liked this boy, I knew myself wel enough to know that it was a crush and it'd be gone soon. Then I was 15, and I realized I was wrong. I no longer liked him, I loved him. Then we went to highschool, graduated, I was 18, and words couldn't and still can't describe how he made me feel, I felt like the world was no longer, everything, my surroundings were heaven whenever I was with him. I'm trying really difficult to not sound cheesy, but I was in adore with him. He was my life. I never got around to telling him cause we were friends and I was scared, but we stopped talking 11th grade, and we were just no longer friens, but I still loved him. Last day of 12th grade, graduation, I told him how I felt and didn't stay to look his reaction, I just left. 6 years have passed, I am now 24. I'm married to a man I met in university, I adore him. So I thought. When id look back to that boy, id giggle and think how silly I was to think that was adore. But, last month, I was at the bank and he was there. Right in front of me. He recongized me and said hi, my heart beated rapidly and I tried saying hi back, only to realize I couldn't. I was tongue tied. We got to talking, and he asked me to lunch. We went and talked about our lives, we talked today, and he told me his world fell apart when I said 'im married' I asked him why, and he said that the day I left, he wanted to tell me he loved me too, but I just left. My heart sank, I couldn't hold it in. I told him I adore him And I do. I adore my husband, but not like this, I've never loved like this. This is the adore of my life. He's the one He took me to dinner, and kissed me goodnight, I felt 15 again. Everything came back. I don't know what to do? Please, my life is falling apart, I don't know if for the better or worse.
15 Mar 2010, 12:49 am | click here for answers
Open Question: In love with my Jewish boyfriend. Tell him or wait?
I'm completely in adore with my boyfriend. He's a Registered Nurse and a wonderful devout Jewish man. I'm a single mom, and currently a student, working on my associates for starters. I know it would be a good while before anything serious could arrive from our relationship because, well, he's no idiot. I know he wants me to have my life straight, have graduated college, and over every, finished my current ongoing thorough investigation of Judaism and have decided whether or not this is something I could be passionate about for the remainder of my life. I really feel like it could be, but I'm young, and still have a lot to learn, so for now, I think I'll continue doing so. My question is, with the way things stand, and the possibility that it could be five years before the word marriage is even mentioned, should I go ahead and confess my adore and complete admiration for him, or just relax, not toss too many emotions out there, and wait to look how things unfold? The fact is, I've been dating him for a year and a half. I've been in adore with him for a good deal of the time, and now that he's leaving for his month and a half long vacation to Israel in less than a week, my feeling towards him have really been on my mind. I just can't help but think, what if something happened to him? I'd forever regret not telling him how strong my feelings are for him. So, If I did tell him, It would sound something like this: Andres, I adore you, a whole lot. Honestly, on a deeper level than I've ever loved any man in the past. I adore being close to you, I adore holding your hand, and looking in your eyes. I adore the way you talk. I adore the way you analyze things. I adore the way you question everything. I adore how cynical you can be, and how spiritual you are. I adore talking about anything with you. I adore that you will always admit when you were wrong. I adore "the team", I adore being your co-pilot, telling you where to turn, and you telling me how to dress. I adore the conversations we have, the arguments we have, the debates we have. I adore the way we trust each others intuition, how if one of us is uncomfortable in a situation, we can give silent signals and be ready to leave in an instant. I adore that we have inside jokes, that somehow we've managed to give the term "washing dishes" a triple meaning. I adore the way the server always laughs at us when we order food. I adore that you're the first person I want to tell when something chilly or interesting happens. I adore that you make me want to be a better person. I adore that your my best pal. I adore that I trust you. I adore that I'm in adore with you. Drew, I don't want for you to leave for Israel without making it clear that I adore every aspect of you. There's so much more I could say, but I think "I'm in adore with you" pretty much sums it up. The one time you said "I adore you", I was so shocked i couldn't talk and you immediately followed it by nervously saying "...Whatever that means!" So, to tell you what "I'm in adore with you" means to me.., Well, I don't know what to say that it means except that you have my heart, and my help. What you have, is a lady who loves you with loyalty, would put herself in danger for your sake if need be, and will always be glad to take the seat as your co-pilot, and your partner. So that's it. Any comments and ideas will be highly appreciated.
15 Mar 2010, 12:44 am | click here for answers
Open Question: BACKBITING IN LAWS?COMING TO VISIT OUR HOME****** HELP PLZZZZ?
Im 24 yrs old...and married for the last 4yrs...we have a3yr old daughter,and well settled in Dubai.I have many issues in my marriage life,especially with my in laws..they are very much snubbing me treating me like nobody in their family and well shouting to me about my parents and telling rubbish to me so i just can't stand them anymore.. Now i will tell everything in detail....from the third day after our wedding ...My MIL told me that ur parents should bring some gifts(home Appliances) to their home as a tradition.but they didn't do that,coz my parents thought that it is not fair for them to ask like that..and instead of home Appliances they gave me 10 sovereigns of gold ornaments. Then after an year in got pregnant and their is some tradition in our family on the seventh month of pregnancy(the women's family have to arrive to the Menes family then gve the preggey lady a gift(gold) and sweets which should be 7 items in number as concerned to the month of pregnancy)and u know what she demanded that the gold should be not less than 10 Sovereign.And i told my parents about this and they agreed,and before tow or three days of the function she (MIL) was talking to me in her bedroom in between the talks she told me that "YOUR PARENTS HAVE NOT DONE THE VERY FIRST TRADITION OF GIVING GIFTS AS HOME APPLIANCES SO THIS IS A CHANCE TO GIVE,SO TELL YOUR PARENTS TO BUY A CUPBOARD AND A INVERTER TOO WITH THE GOLD ORNAMENTS"i was really depressed of hearing this she only have to talk about money and gold,i felt unhappy about this and i told my mom about the talk and she told me tell her (MIL)to call her(my mom)to tell the items she want for her home.and without any shame she called my parents and told my mom that there is a pending tradition so u have to do that,then my mom lose the grip of her tongue and had a big argument with my(MIL)she was so ashamed of that incident and told me that tell you parents that don't bring that home Appliances...i told my hus about this and he told that my mom would not have talk like that,yes i agree with him but she(MIL) is beyond my control..I CAN'T STAND HER ANYMORE..and the day of function came every the demands of my IN LAWS WERE SATISFIED TOO(11 AND HALF SOVEREIGN OF GOLD,SEVEN ITEMS OF SWEETS(SERVES 40),CUPBOARD,INVERTER)and the function went every fine and that eve in went to my parents place..(my home) After two months...9 months they(my in laws)wants to arrive to look me according to their tradition they have to bring sweets and every when they visit me and it should be in 9 items too they bought only 5 or 4 which is not enough to share within the family...(its a custom)as of the seventh month.My parents kept silent on this matter after they have left we went to a bakery and bought items 9 in number and share it to every family members...as if they(in laws)bought for me.... After 2 weeks i got deliverd with a beautiful baby girl(MASHA ALLAH).things went every fine.My hus came to look we both..he was glad and he went back to Dubai after a week.Then came the next issue is forming (I TOLD MY HUSBAND THT YOUR PARENTS SHOULD DO WELL ON THE DAY OF FUNTION AS IF THEY SHOULD GIFT THE BABY WELL WITH GOLD,DRESS DRESS FOR ME AND MY FAMILY) we have a costom(40th day bath)in that day everybody will be invited and they will give gift for the baby GOLD WHICH THEY GIFTED WERE FROM MY HUSBAND later i came to know about that..(like dress,gold,toys,dress for me)on that day she came so tardy and gift the baby gold,and dress(which were of needy quality)and dress for me and my mom only nobody else.i losse my temper and shouted to my hus that they haven't done anythng for me as a costom but your parents want everything to be in the same coustom, and we every had a big argument for that matter And now also my in laws are talking rubbish on my parents..saying that they havent gave me anythng more etc..they even don't attened any function invited by my relatives but my parents should attened every the funtion of theirs.I JUST HATE THEM(in laws) Last time when we were on vacction at our home town...i visited my in laws too and wished to stay with them for a month but after a week she started snubbing me..and after a while of peacefull talks she strted GETTING INTO MY NERVES and i too stared shouthing at her face,She was telling about my dowary,money mis behaviour and i too talked to her in the same tone.I CANT STAND HER ANYMORE...she was telling me tht u just receive out from my home. NOW I WANT TO KNOW FROM YOU every ......ONLY ONE THING........she is comng to spend her vaccation with us here in Dubai..SHE WILL REPEAT THE SAME AS SHE DID BEFORE....SO WHAT every BOUNDARIES SHOULD I KEEP IN FRONT IN ORDER TO MOVE AWAY FROM HER...I UNDERSTOOD THT I CAN'T BE CLOSE TO HER ANYMORE I HATE HER A LOT.....PLZ HELP
15 Mar 2010, 12:42 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Getting Married...IN LAWS DONT SEEM INTRESTED AT ALL NEED HELP?
So my boyfriend and I have been together for 3yrs now (know eachother four years this march) and we have two beautiful kids together recently we decided we want to receive married, so were pretty glad and we want to try and do it every ourselves.. but his family doesnt seem to glad for us. I know we arent extrememly well off but were doing fine and adore makes a marriage work not money, when i told his sister in law we were getting married her response was "how are you going to be able to afford that?", i was shocked because i was hoping for something along the lines of congradulations (mind you me and here dont really receive along she is a few years older than me, but she has never given me a chance to receive to know her but thats another story). I try to not let her receive to me, since im not marrying her. His mom on the other hand she had me change the wedding date twice and i wasn't glad about it finally i said to my fiance it is my day i am not changing my mind and i am firm!, so we decided to receive Married next march. My mom is glad for us and he helping for some things, but his mom her reaction is hurtful. for the groomsmen they are wearing nice dress shirts and dress pants cheaper but still nice. my brides maids are buying there possess dresses but from sears *good prices* and i am getting a grad style dress for myself that is below 500.00. But no matter what ideas i have for our wedding she tries to cheap it down, i understand saving money but this is my day and my money, and her reaction everytime i bring up the wedding or plans in distant and unintrested AND LIKE it doesnt even matter to her at every, he is the baby in his family it should they only have two sons.. and its hurting my feelings yes call me petty if you like but i would adore for her to take an intrest in our special day. everyone was over joyed when his brother got married they had a nice wedding in a church and a big hall nice meal etc.. but it seems like our special day means nothing to his family.. and its really hurtful.. what are some ways i can talk his mom about it and not feel so offended any advice would be helpful My fiance says he is used to beign treated like this but i feel like he should not have to feel like the black sheep, and i feel like you only receive married once they should give us some respect. I am getting the feeling they dont want us to receive married... help That is exactly how they treat us... when we offer to bring food to receive togethers they say no thats ok or when we offered to buy my fiances neice a carseat when she was born no you cant afford that its like were not in poverty... thanks
15 Mar 2010, 12:21 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Disability and sexuality - personal care attendants?
Trying to condense this question a little, but let me explain the situation.. If you are a bigot or have anything against people with disabilities enjoying sexual pleasure, please don't read any further, I don't need narrow or closed minded people opinionating on this topic. It's a serious question. People with disabilities have every right to a healthy sexual existence. I have been working as a personal care attendant to people with various disabilities for the last nearly 8 years. I am a very professional, highly skilled worker, who would never think to put any of my clients in the way of hurt. I have been seeing one client for nearly 7 years now.. a man with a high cervical spine injury which has rendered him a quadriplegic, unable to move below his neck. He is not that much older than me in the scheme of things, but old enough that I wouldn't consider a full relationship with him. He has had his disability for over 20 years, is very grounded, intelligent and has arrive to terms with who he is and what he is. He's not someone you could take advantage of.. he knows what he wants. Anyway, we're very close and attracted to each other, but as I mentioned before, we wouldn't take it to the point of having a relationship.. I am very understanding of his sexual needs as an adult male despite his disability, moreso than any of my colleagues, who he would never talk to about any of this, but we often have sexual conversations, about what he can feel, what he likes, even what I like.. He cannot ejaculate, but he can gain an erection with stimulation (he says his feeling would be about 15-20 % of what anyone else would feel).. Until last year I was in a relationship with someone, so I was very reluctant to help him with anything, but now we are both single and have no partners to answer to.. I want to help him. He is not able to masturbate himself, but also gets a little frustrated when he is physically stimulated "down there" by someone else as he can't finish the job off (due to his inability to ejaculate). He loves the stimulation that I have been providing him with my hands, but also says he needs some visual stimulation. Last week, I was at his home, getting him ready for his shower, and he asked me if he could touch my breast (I had to keep leaning across him and he couldn't help himself). I said he could, took his hand and placed it there. Later on he asked me if he could put his hand closer (ie, below my shirt) so I allowed him that too. Wanting to help him out more, I asked him if, other than massaging him, there was anything else that would be of assistance to him.. he has explained that he is very visually stimulated, particularly by the other person enjoying themselves.. so while I have my limitations and my integrity that I wish to maintain (I don't believe in sex outside marriage, but have no problems helping him with the exception of penetrative adore making and using my mouth, and have no problems enjoying myself) he wants to look me enjoying myself to satisfy his sexual needs. I know he won't tell anyone, (not that his sexual needs are something that need to be hidden) and would adore to help him out.. I'm just a little conflicted. He says I can lock his door, no worries, and no one will walk in, I know it's not entirely professional, but we've had many conversations about this.. he knows me and we're reasonably close which would be bettter than him seeking a total stranger who he can't necessarily trust to stick to the script, so to talk. Many other clients look sex workers and sex therapists who help them out, but he doesn't necessarily want one.. I'm glad to help him out in that regard. I'm really thinking this through, and I recognise that he has every right to a healthy sex life, even if it is just watching or being massaged. Unfortunately he can't do much more than that. What would your comments be on this? I am not intending to end up totally naked... will help with what he needs while maintaining my boundaries. I don't make decisions like this lightly.. I am a decent lady, with morals and ethics, I'm just trying to help someone out. Add: Underground lightning - no, I don't work in Wisconsin.. entirely different country! Due to the work this man does, he is very discrete (he's in a situation where he can't share details about his clients) and he knows not to tell anyone about us, so I'm not concerned about it at every.. I want to help him out, and am quite prepared to do it. I do understand that sometimes PCA's are entitled to assist with sexual health as well as physical wellbeing.
15 Mar 2010, 12:12 am | click here for answers
Open Question: My fiance doesn't allow me to use his cellphone even after marriage. Confused! Help me!?
My fiance and I are already more than 1 year and 3 months. He never touched my cellphone and so do I. Last night, when I asked him. After marriage, am I allow to use your cellphone? He immediately said, "NO." He said it's against the law in Germany. He read the article based on the German law book. However, I couldn't understand the reason why. He said, I can use his cellphone after 5 years. He told me that it is sound odd, but it is. I really think so. It's odd. Germany guys, is it really true in Germany? By the way, I am from Asian country. Sometimes, I feel that's there's something wrong or he doesn't trust me. I am confused. I can't understand. Please help. I am looking forward to your answers guys. Thanks!
15 Mar 2010, 12:12 am | click here for answers
Open Question: dream analysis question, help me please?!?
I had a dream the other night that I was marrying my pal Leland (I'm absolutely not attracted to him at every so it was very weird it was him I was marrying). I looked up marriage on a dream analysis site and it side that marriage represented a balance in opposites (which seems to work because Leland and I are completely opposite but it would be nice if someone analyzed this part of the dream too) BUT the most interesting part of the dream was that the marriage was happening in front of his home (but it wasn't really his home in real life it was a home representing his home, whatever) and right after rings go on fingers and whatnot my best pal Derek is riding his bicycle in front of our wedding and then runs into a median in the road and crashes and hurts his knee and starts crying. This is the second time Derek has rode his bicycle and gotten hurt in one of my dreams. What does it mean for him to keep crashing and getting hurt on the bicycle? My mom has even had dreams where Derek crashes while on a bicycle, why would she be having those as well?
14 Mar 2010, 9:46 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: i am an independent single for way to long. tips? also an aquarius.?
its been so long im embarrassed. im 17 i dont know if its because i have no personality or its wack or cause im unattractive. i actually do have boy after me but im not into them. and there never what i want im to picky and i dont know how to receive out of this state and the boys i do like, im not there type. dont judge me stupid just becuase i said im an aquarius and believe it in every word. i do think it is accuret in some places and does it have to do with my sign ? ive been told that we hold off marriage too for later cuase we never think we have the right one. im tiered of being single :|. any tips and help how i can move on and not wait for mr perfect cuz there is no such thing as perfect. its like i cant convince my self that. lol i know i sound silly. thank you for your support : )
14 Mar 2010, 9:30 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Why is this happening to me ?
Okay ..so the last question I wrote about the issues I am having with my parents and marriage . So today , I told my mom that I am not glad with myself but that I am not going to marry the guys that she has picked out . Supposedly someone is coming on the 16th to arrive and check me out . How scary, from India . My soon to be mom-in- law . Am I going through abuse ? because sometimes it feels like I am . My dad told me that I do not have the right AGAIN ! to tell anyone that I will not marry him (if he is a doctor or engineer or any man of degree status ) . I live in the same household as my parents . A guy denied me because I was Christian . My dad said , you cannot tell anyone that you are a Christian . Once they find out you are one ..people in India devalue it because it is considered the lowest ranking on the list . I just wanted to tell him to push it up so far( but it is not the Christian thing to do ) . I stayed there silent and didn't make eye contact with . Like a good peasant girl . Then he said " Look at me and hear carefully. " These well educated hindu men are going to deny you over and over again because you are telling them you are reborn again . Ask your god this , why am I fat , uneducated and why do I not have inferiority complex? " To tell you the truth , I had inferiority complex way before I was a Christian . He had a smirk on his face and left the room . I don't know why . As he left he said , " There is no god , it is every make believe . If there was a god you wouldn't have gone through this ." These men keep calling me ..They are so desperate for a green card that it is so unhappy . So did this one chick . She was not trying to receive off of the phone . She was like you can ask me anything , my brother is very shy . I can answer for him . However , I do like this doctor from India , he seems modern and nice but he doesn't know that I am Christian yet ! what should I do ??? please help .
14 Mar 2010, 8:58 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: How can I tell my 9 month pregnant wife that I got two other women pregnant?
I have 5 kids, ranging in the age of 2-5 from 3-4 women. I finally thought I settled down with one lady, after 6 divorces, and this marriage would be it! But I went bowling (bar and grill) and I saw these really hot women, when I began to feel my penis throbbing, I couldn't help myself, I had to fuck them, I stayed in touch with these women and had sex with everyday after work for 3 months. Until one day they came in, while I was waiting for my daily f#cking, but they came PO'ed saying that they were pregnant. How do I tell my wife that I got two other women pregnant?
14 Mar 2010, 8:55 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Menopausal mum-argument and now ignoring each other?
I am 24, I moved out when I was 19 but recently moved back so that it would be cheaper while I'm at uni. I am regretting this now as my family ways argue. The latest episode was the day before mom's day, my mum wanted a new laptop and printer and wanted my advice. So we go and she chooses with my help, but on the way back it erupts. She wants me to set the whole thing up, which I say I can't do because I have coursework in for Tuesday, on top of that she had organised a mini party the next day on mothers day which meant I would have LESS time and my exams are coming up in less than a month. She accuses me of not having time for her, calls me a problem, insults everything I've done and the way I pick to lice my life (single, no marriage or kids ever, probably because I'm gay I just have no interest-she's known for years) she then accuses me of having a problem with my sister who has just had her second child, to which I just laughed and then she started crying. We didn't talk for the relax of the day and every mothers day because I went to the library to work. I have absolutely no idea what to do, I don't think i've done anything wrong. I thought mothers WANTED their kids to do well at uni, not receive mad at them because they don't want to spend every day showing them how windows 7 works. My sister is just as bad, tells me "you are babysitting" a week before I have exams because she wants to go out and receive drunk. Yeah don't talk to her anymore. I feel completely different from the relax of my family and I have just about had it, but if I move out how will I be able to study AND pay everything? I don't know I've never done that before? Thanks
14 Mar 2010, 8:28 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Thai lady married to australian man wants to become australian citizen... presently in Oz on a tourist visa?
I married a Thai national in Thailand last December and she and daughter are here with me now on a tourist visa (we were advised that it was the best way and then when we arrive here to apply for permanent residency)... The visa has a 'no further stay' condition attached but i have been told by the embassy here that we may be able to have it removed... We have tried getting advice from several internet sites and agencies but maybe someone here can be of more help... What is the best way to go about it and how much will it cost?... Also, do we have to register our marriage here in Australia? we have been quoted by an agency that it will cost up to AU$10,000 to obtain full citizenship for my wife and child
14 Mar 2010, 8:26 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Issue with enforcing marriage agreements?
Lets say I am married and I possess a tire business and my wife owns a business as well and she becomes sick, and asks me to help out in her business. Due to the illness she eventually asks(verbal) me to devote my full time to the business below the promise we will operate the business as a joint enterprise, share equally in the ownership of its assets, and divide its returns equally. Pursuant to the agreement, I close the tire business and then 5 years later she leaves me, while denying every rights to her business. If I sue to enforce our agreement, is the agreement enforceable if the agreement was verbal? What about if it was in writing, would it be different?
14 Mar 2010, 8:18 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: SEXY WIFE SAID SHE NEEDS MORE HELP?
I need to understand what causes trust issues with me. I do not trust my wife and did not trust my ex-wife. I have no problem getting lady, I just seem to destroy them. I need to know what causes this and how to correct it for the future. What wife gave me a list of what I need to change why am I this way. What could have happen in my childhood that would cause me to be insecure and not trusting? Why am I so not able to trust and very skeptical? My wife gave me a list of what I need to change why am I this way. Trust Crazy thoughts Name calling Controlling personality Skeptical thinking Drama Stress Enjoying her adore making Commitment Wanting to do things with her Being nice to her Dedication Passion for our relationship and her Having faith in her Thinking good of her Overbearing of her With every of these things changed will this keep my marriage, or is this just who I am? Is it possible to changes these things naturally so it will last?
14 Mar 2010, 8:13 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: PLEASE HELP ME! WHAT DO I WRITE?
I'm getting a purity ring and I don't know what to engrave in it! I want it to be special so I don't want it to be "True adore waits." Please help me, it can only be 25 letters and spaces so nothing too long please! Thank you SOOO much! P.s. just in case you don't know what a purity ring is, it's a ring that symbolizes a promise to not have sex until marriage. Thanks again!
14 Mar 2010, 8:03 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Why do we allow the media to choose our leaders?
If you ask a liberal, a black American or a democrat why Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton are the leaders of black America, they will every claim that they did not pick either Al or Jessie, to talk for every black Americans. They will point their finger at the media. Whenever there is a "white on black" injustice, the media's cameras place Jessie and Al middle stage in the news. Its clearly the media who has chosen these cretins to practice race baiting and inciting racial conflict. With the wave of negativity created by the democratic party, resonated by the liberal media, the Presidency was a sure thing for the Clintons in '08; without help from the media, Obama would have remained the most inexperienced junior senator in the senate. Midway through the primaries, the media decided the Clinton's baggage was just too much to relive and the minuscule credibility the media had left, after stonewalling every of the Clinton's crimes, abuses of power, scandals and cover-ups of crimes, the liberal media decided Obama was their man. Obama could talk well on camera and he carries the socialist flag, plus, he has much less baggage than the Clintons- BINGO! The media shoved Obama down the public's throats, this unknown first-time political candidate became the darling of the liberal media. Plus, sHrillery has been pissy to the media for not doing more to sell her phony marriage & she won't kiss the media's hind-quarters, sHrillery believes she is entitled to rule, well, not kissing the media's backside, proved to be a fatal mistake. Here we are, with an entire congress led by weasels, crooks, charlatans, liars and hacks. We have a President with the same amount of political experience as Sarah Palin, who is trying his best to make a giant jump towards socialism, with government controlled health care. How do we prevent the media from choosing our leaders and running their propaganda on behalf of the democratic party and moveontosocialism.org ?
14 Mar 2010, 8:02 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: HOW CAN I STOP MY 15 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER FROM HAVING INTERCOURSE?
I TOLD HER EVERY NEGATIVE THING THAT COULD POSSIBLE HAPPEN BY NOT WAITING FOR MARRIAGE AND IT STILL SEEMS LIKE SHE WANTS TO DO IT!! I EVEN TOLD HER THAT IF I CAUGHT HER THEN SHE WOULD BE GROUNDED UNTIL SHE MOVED OUT. I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY. I REALLY NEED HELP!!! SHE IS WAY TO YOUNG DON'T YOU AGREE????
14 Mar 2010, 7:34 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I really don't know what to say, Help?
PARENTS I really don't know what to say, Help? My 15 year old daughter and me went shopping when we were talking she brought up a subject about sex. She asked me when I lost my virginity. I told her that I waited til I was married. She then said to me that She was ready to have sex. IMMEDIATE I dropped my bags in total shock! ! ! I took her out side and told her that she NEEDED to wait until she was married or else I would be VERY mad at her and she could never go out with her friends AGAIN until she moved out. After that I was speechless. SHE IS 15 YEARS OLD!!!! SHE SHOULD NOT WANT TO BE HAVING SEX!!!!! I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO HER BECAUSE I WANT HER TO WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE!!! I TOLD HER SHE COULD receive PREGNANT OR receive AN STD BUT SHE STILL SEEMS WILLING TO DO IT!!! IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE I CAN DO?? I TOLD HER ABOUT every THE NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT HAVING SEX.
14 Mar 2010, 7:22 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Help im gay and my parents are preparing for marriage?
Ok please i would like an educated answer where you can help me with my life i basically cant tell anyone else... i just turned 19 and i found i was gay since 16 years old. Now the time is coming where i must start to think of my future. In several years my parents will tell me to marry, and i must do SOMETHING. I have two choices, i can either marry a women or not marry at every. If i tell my family they will hate me forever and exile me. We are muslims. Also, i think my cousins know that i am gay through internet browsing but i make sure to delete it. Still i am fearful guys if someone knows it will be a dead end. My life will turn 180 degree i have noone to support me noone to help me and i have no choice but to keep it silent and close. So how do i talk to them on marriage because they've already began to talk about it. My brother married in his early 20's now its my f turn. WHAT DO I DO CAN YOU GIVE ME AN EXPERIENCE HELP ANYTHING...im even willing to do a surgery for gods sake to turn my sexuality, im willing to insert hormonss,pills whatever it takes anything i mean its the year 2010 for ...sake. Please help...the time is coming and i dont know what to do. * 14 minutes ago * - 4 days left to answer. Additional Details ok guys your not helping honestly im a student who studies and if my parents dont support me who WILL, i mean their my family and i have noone else to be with, emotionally, financially, etc besides i am muslim which means that i must quit my religion, ITS NOT EASY IT MEANS I WILL ENTER A NEW LIFE FROM THE START hear TO WHAT YOUR SAYING.....and here i asked for educated answers. WTF????!!! I AM OK you think this is some sort of scam what the.... Ok one zach stands for zachery who is a prophet in the quran thus its actually a common name from algeria besides their are muslims named george, kyle whatever, the real issue is my question how do i solve it...seriously.
14 Mar 2010, 7:18 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I'm Gay, How do i solve this problem?
Ok please i would like an educated answer where you can help me with my life i basically cant tell anyone else... i just turned 19 and i found i was gay since 16 years old. Now the time is coming where i must start to think of my future. In several years my parents will tell me to marry, and i must do SOMETHING. I have two choices, i can either marry a women or not marry at every. If i tell my family they will hate me forever and exile me. We are muslims. Also, i think my cousins know that i am gay through internet browsing but i make sure to delete it. Still i am fearful guys if someone knows it will be a dead end. My life will turn 180 degree i have noone to support me noone to help me and i have no choice but to keep it silent and close. So how do i talk to them on marriage because they've already began to talk about it. My brother married in his early 20's now its my f turn. WHAT DO I DO CAN YOU GIVE ME AN EXPERIENCE HELP ANYTHING...im even willing to do a surgery for gods sake to turn my sexuality, im willing to insert hormonss,pills whatever it takes anything i mean its the year 2010 for ...sake. Please help...the time is coming and i dont know what to do. ok guys your not helping honestly im a student who studies and if my parents dont support me who WILL, i mean their my family and i have noone else to be with, emotionally, financially, etc besides i am muslim which means that i must quit my religion, ITS NOT EASY IT MEANS I WILL ENTER A NEW LIFE FROM THE START hear TO WHAT YOUR SAYING.....and here i asked for educated answers. ok guys your not helping honestly im a student who studies and if my parents dont support me who WILL, i mean their my family and i have noone else to be with, emotionally, financially, etc besides i am muslim which means that i must quit my religion, ITS NOT EASY IT MEANS I WILL ENTER A NEW LIFE FROM THE START hear TO WHAT YOUR SAYING.....and here i asked for educated answers.
14 Mar 2010, 7:03 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Really overprotective mom... Help me?
Warning: This is a very rambly and lengthy question. So if you have the time to read every I have to say, then I will appreciate it. Alright, so I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a girl i met on myyearbook. yeah, I know, it's a risky situation but that's not a problem. We've been dating for a little more than a month. The problem is my girlfriend's mom. She has to be the most protective mom ever in the world. She will not my girlfriend do anything. Every weekend is the same for her: sitting in her room watching a movie or listening to music, taking new pictures for myspace, or anything she can find. Her mom will not let her be alone with any guy at every. Her mom thinks they're going to have sex or make-out. Of course this is not true for many many reasons. For starters, the only guy she would be making out with is me and we won't even arrive close to making out or having sex. We've only met in person once and it would only be a date/hangout. We would be doing every of the same things she would do with her guy friends (watch movies, hear to music, go on the computer). We would cuddle a little and only kiss about once, but that's it. Another thing is that my girlfriend is a very obedient, mature, gets good grades, isn't a trouble maker, isn't spoiled at every, doesn't do drugs or drink or smoke, has friends just as mature as her, and the biggest thing is that my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until marriage. Her mom views every teen as sexually active, trouble making, rebellious, and immature. I'm way more mature than what she views male teens as. I'm also obedient, smart, don't smoke or drink or do drugs, etc. just like my girlfriend. We've been trying to make plans to look a movie for at least three weeks and every answer was a straight up "no" with no reason why. One weekend we were a day from being able to look a movie but her mom and dad would be with. Then her grandma made a plan out of nowhere to spend time with her mom so that was canceled. Then one weekend her mom said no because she didn't feel like taking her to the movie theater. But guess what happened that same day? My girlfriends mom went to the movie with just her husband and they went to other places while my girlfriend stayed home alone...doing nothing. So not only is her mom overprotective, but she's hypocritical as well. She doesn't want her daughter to be alone with me but yet she won't take the time to take her to the movie theater and watch a movie with her and i. every of my friends and even parents agree that her mom is wayyy to overprotective and doesn't understand that her daughter wants to be in a serious and safe relationship. I recommended that my girlfriend should talk to her mom about this current situation but my girlfriend said her mom probably wouldn't want to talk. Also, every her mom does at home is watch television every day. She can't take an hour or so off of her precious television time to have a serious talk with her daughter? I still really want to be in a relationship with my girlfriend but her overprotective mom is getting really irritating and is the only factor of not being able to look her. I know that it's very possible i won't be in a relationship with her until i decide to receive married but i've never met a girl that i can connect with so well. We've even been talking about living with each other after she graduates because she's 2 years younger than me. We've talked about marriage and kids and practically everything about our future. Yeah, it's a little pointless to talk about marriage at such a time but being in high school is about starting to think about your future. And also, relationships should be encouraged in high school. I don't look what is wrong with my girlfriend dating. She's almost a sophomore, which would be her second year in high school. The more experience she has with having a boyfriend, the more she'll learn to be safe in a relationship. How could that happen if she's cooped up in her home every weekend? Okay, so what i've been told once was that she isn't that into me and doesn't have the heart to tell me to go away. That's not true at every. We text every day and talk about anything, that's how well we connect. If she wasn't into me, why would she continue to take the time to text me and apply me to her life constantly as if she was interested in me? Also, she compliments me plenty of times, saying how i'm sweet, handsome, etc. She has me on her top on myspace for every of her friends to look, but she doesn't tell them we're dating. I know that it sounds very reliable towards technology but how else will we be able to communicate being in a long distance relationship. Yeah, I have my doubts that doesn't adore me anymore and just doesn't want to hurt me. What if she does still adore me and I ask her if she's been lying this whole time about loving me? There's a big chance that will affect our relationship. Then there's those who say being with someone for a month isn't a "relationsh
14 Mar 2010, 6:29 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I'm obsess with this girl and I'm feeling like 15 y.o? How can I approach her? HELP!!!!?
Need advice so badly!...I met her about 2 months ago. She's architect, from Brazilian's branch office, but now she's here (NYC office), because although she's very young, she already has an architectural doctorate degree (Arch D). whose field is uncommon and important for our new project. So, she's designing this. And she supposed to stay here during the construction, but she did not accept. Kate (our colleague) told me she wants to return to Brazil as soon as possible, because she misses her pal and family, especially the nephews...also her culture and hear Portuguese). Well, anyway, here's what really matters: She's not just intelligent, she's also gorgeous, really is, extremely beautiful and hot... but her attribute that I most like is that she's very decent...I noticed that because almost every singles men from office asked her out, and she didn't accept none. I was so curious about her, that I called Ricardo, a pal from Brazilian's branch office, and he said she's divorced with no kids; She got married at 17, with her 1st BF, who is 15 years older, and is court judge. She DIVORCED him last year, at age 27! (now she's 28)! Her marriage ended because of HIS JEALOUSY+ HE HIT HER+ she had an ABORTION because of this! (I was shocked when I found). Ricardo (yeah, he told me a lot) also said she's always receiving flowers, but never accept a date. She's single since she got divorced last year! So, that's her. Will she bring me trouble? I disagree... Well, now that I know that she says NO to everyone, and besides she's so silent and closed that never comes to our glad hour, how can I approach her? I want a serious relationship...If I could prove that I'm not like that Brazilian she divorced! I never felt this before, and I'm not exaggerating! p.s: I'm so nervous, sorry for the confusion...
14 Mar 2010, 5:39 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I just turned 16 last month. I want to wait to have sex until marriage.?
List Pros And cons. Do you think its good or bad. Tips/advice? People always tell me they think its stupid but i think true adore will wait. i want to be with someone because they adore me and couldn't live with out me and want to spend the relax of their lives with me and not bc they just wanna be with me to receive in my pants then leave. why do people thing sex not until marriage is stupid. i do not receive it. help
14 Mar 2010, 5:24 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Whats the fastest and cheapest way i can get a divorce .........................?
If it helps , i have been separated for more than 10 years and i have a copy of the marriage certificate . I have next to no money which is why i need the cheapest way possible . There is no property to argue over and kids are not an issue , also i know she will accept the divorce no problems .
14 Mar 2010, 5:18 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: What is the estimated homosexual population of the world?
I'm writing a research paper regarding same-sex marriage. To support my argument I feel that it'd be great to show the number of homosexuals in the world population, but I can't seem to find any reliable sources that give an estimated total. Please help. IF YOU ANSWER, PLEASE HAVE SOURCES.
14 Mar 2010, 5:04 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: My name is marina i was married six years before and my marriage life was broken with in 3months and i was 22?
My name is marina i was married six years before and my marriage life was broken with in 3months and i was 22 by that time, because my husband was unfaithfull to me and i was forced to abort my pregnancy by them. now i am living alone with my parents and i got a marriage proposal from one person now my parents are insisting me and even i prefer to guide a life but i am afraid will this be adultre or a sin committing by that person help me, i do not want to spoil his life
14 Mar 2010, 4:59 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: what to do? i dont want to marry him please help!?
ok im getting married soon well this is an arrange marriage and i don't like the guy i mean the look wise n every .Hes well educated,very modest,shy and nerd.And appearance wise hes not so tall but taller than me and he has no confidence.We dont talk at every as i text earlier that hes very shy nice of person but my parents are forcing me and telling me that hes the right guy blah blah.Help me please!
14 Mar 2010, 4:48 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Boyfriend never talks about marriage..do i have the right to be mad?
We have been dating for 3 years now. I am always talking about finishing collage finding a job and getting married (i finish college this summer) He always jokes about it. Today i had enough and got mad. his response was that i was always on time to leave (the relationship) i am unhappy and mad. I adore him to death and not sure what to do. help please. It hurts to be mad at him cause i adore him so much! Do i have the right to be mad? Am i exaggerating?
14 Mar 2010, 4:17 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: boyfriend never talks about marriage..do i have the right to be mad?
We have been dating for 3 years now. I am always talking about finishing collage finding a job and getting married (i finish college this summer) He always jokes about it. Today i had enough and got mad. his response was that i was always on time to leave (the relationship) i am unhappy and mad. I adore him to death and not sure what to do. help please. It hurts to be mad at him cause i adore him so much! Do i have the right to be mad? Am i exaggerating?
14 Mar 2010, 4:04 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Do you like my Original Song about love and marriage?
i'm trying to receive a million views so please rate, comment and please subscribe http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ibx97CdLzms I'm trying to receive exposure and if you could help me in anyway by telling friends or anything i would truly appreciate it. thank you
14 Mar 2010, 3:51 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: How do I tell him no nicely?
Okay obviously I am married, but I have a guy pal who I have known for a while. Now that my hubby is gone(bct) he is txting every the time...and he is keeping it casual with just a few suggestive messages once in a while. He wants me to meet up w/ him every the time, and I dont feel comfortable with this. I just have a feeling that he wants something more, and I am not a cheater help! By the way I have tried the whole talking about my husband and our marriage thing to try and hint that I am a glad and faithful girl! bct= basic combat training :)
14 Mar 2010, 2:46 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: What is the percentage of people who get married because of an unplanned pregnancy?
I am writing an essay on how the wedding industry is overshadowing the institution of marriage. While millions of dollars are spent on the wedding industry yearly, 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce. I am writing about failed marriages, abusive marriages, and loveless marriages and need to know what the percentage of people is who receive married because of an unplanned pregnancy. Please help! and please cite your source if you have one..thanks!
14 Mar 2010, 2:29 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: how can we make our relationship work if his parents don't approve because of my race?
we're both Asian, i'm Filipino, he's Nepalese born in Burma meaning both his parents are full Nepalese. we've been together for almost a year now, less than one month to go. we adore each other, his parents are fine with and me being just his girlfriend, i respect them and i also hear to what they say. but, they only want him to marry a Nepali girl. we're both 18 not planning on marriage yet, we've been neighbors for a couple of years now. but what his parents said really hit difficult, he loves me, but he he also very much loves his parents and value their beliefs. they're going to bring him to a Nepali convention and meet girls there, if anyone asks if he has a girlfriend, he has to say no :'( i don't know when that is yet though. he said that it'll be better if we break up sooner than later so it wouldn't hurt as much, we tried that yesterday it didn't work we don't want to let go just yet. i asked him if we can just have our relationship a secret from his family, but he said that he doesn't want it in secrecy and hurt his parents. i want to stay with him i adore him soo much that i would do anything for him. i don't know what to do, anyone dealing with the same situation and made it work? any professional adore doctors out there that can help us out? and the convention, is the place to meet other people of the same culture in the same area or state, not just dating, just letting u know that ;] it's like a festival other Asian cultures are there too. and he's still living with his parents, he's still a senior in high school about to graduate in about 2 or 3 months. in their culture, they can't move out until they receive married =/ i just wish his parents are more accepting, we're in the US -_-"
14 Mar 2010, 2:26 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Military couple, oversea's.. what are our options fore getting married?
We are both active duty Army... stationed in italy. We know about double-proxy marriage, but that's $950, and it takes three months for us to receive the paperwork. We are over sea's.. in italy. Can we go to the JAG office and have them do a marriage certificate and then just go the chaplin for our ceremony, or is there another way. Will it cost to go through JAG {if in deed we can]. Thank you ** i asked in the "Military" section, and got NO response, so plz help me out here.
14 Mar 2010, 2:14 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I am with an older man, some of his kids are older than me. it worries me when they look at me sexually, help?
I'm 19, with a man in his 40s. I do not truly know what'll arrive of us but I believe we adore each other. he was talking about marriage which is a whole different thing but not why I ask here today. The eldest son is 23, he is bad,like the worst ever. For some reason he thought it was okay to just grope me. I woke up to him caressing my breasts. Hate talking about it, now he's been kicked out. He comes back when his dad is not around, and when he knows I'm there. I don't want them to be at odds but look what I've done. I don't want to have to impose a restraining order but I feel uneasy around him and the crazy talk. (I think people may go on about the age diff. Feel free to, but what I need now are thoughts/inputs/advice, so help me please)
14 Mar 2010, 2:09 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: 19 year old with a 15 year old?
I'm a 19 year old guy who's fallen difficult for a 15 year old. We met about a little over a year ago, and over the past few months have grown much closer. She's this good christian girl with her head on straight... and it's been good for me... I've given up drinking, stopped swearing, and she's been helping me (unbeknown to her) receive closer to God. That said, I tend to dress in a way that has apparently scared her parents, and before they even met me they told her she needs to stay away from me. So... I told her she should let me arrive over to look her at night sometime, jokingly because I didn't think she'd go for it. She did, though, and so I started sneaking over to her home... we've never had sex; both of us want to wait til marriage. And in every my trips over there, we've mostly only talked or watched a movie... But this morning her mom came downstairs and found me... her mom ran upstairs pissed, and my girl, not wanting me in trouble, pushed me out the back door. I waited a little bit and rang the doorbell hoping to talk to her mom - to apologize and to talk things through - but I was met with a dirty look and a slammed door... I have but 2 questions: 1) what are the legal actions they could take, keeping in mind that we've never had sex, and that a simple medical test should be able to prove their daughter is still a virgin. 2) does anyone have any way in mind I might somehow start to mend things with her parents... or at least some way i can help ease things for her and the strain her parental relationships are about to endure...divorce has hurt their home enough as it is... they don't need this pushing them further apart :/
14 Mar 2010, 1:54 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: How to mend my broken heart?
I am hoping someone can help me. I am completely heart broken. My husband and I have been together 14 years, married for 5. He is gone. In january there was an incident, due to his drinking. he got arrested. I did not press charges. No point as I knew it was not intentional. Anyway one day he said he was going to visit his sister for a fdew days, he never came back. He only contacts me via email. He asked me to help him in court. So I evoked my marital rights, did not testify. I adore him whole heartedly. every the while my possess sister and pal where talking badly about me. Saying how stupid I was, that he never loved me only used me. His family hates me and I do not know why. They do not know me. They do not know what he was like in our home, only what he chose to share with them. They say I am the reason he is an alcoholic, they blame me. I want so much for my marriage to work. He has joined a dating site, says he is single, but in emails says he just needs sobriety time below his belt. I am sick over this, literally. I cannot eat, concentrate at a job I hate, I have no friends really. My sister is quite sick. She has sent email after email being abusive, mean, and my husband said he is getting things from her as well. I asked her to leave us alone, leave me alone. She has her life and I have mine. She has never really been apart of my life accept to hurt me. Now here I sit, alone, heart broken and feeling very desperate, i guess that is why I am doing this now...
14 Mar 2010, 1:32 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Whoever wants to fill this out for me I need ten people to do this its for school it would be very nice. I?
I had to arrive up with questions to ask about marriage and i need to find ten people to answer them and if you people would help i would really appreciate it!! Age: Gender: Martial Status: Parental Status: Racial or Ethnic identity: Religion: 1.What is Marriage to you? 2. Is marriage to you between man and women? 3.Should a man have more then one wife? 4.Does society need marriage? 5.What is your reason for getting a marriage if needed? receive divorced just because, or if there is adultary, or cheating going on? 6.How should marriage be decided? Arranged or do it yourself? 7.Does age make an impact on the marriage? 8.Should women stay home and do things around the home, or go to work like the man? 9.Why did you receive married?\ 10.If you had the chance to not have kids would you? #5 Correction-1.What is your reason for getting a divorce if needed? receive divorced just because, or if there is adultary, or cheating going on?
14 Mar 2010, 1:26 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Please help me, how can I approach her?? this became a problem for me to focus at work....?
Need advice so badly!...I met her about 2 months ago. She's architect, from Brazilian's branch office, but now she's here (NYC office), because although she's very young, she already has an architectural doctorate degree (Arch D). whose field is uncommon and important for our new project. So, she's designing this. And she supposed to stay here during the construction, but she did not accept. Kate (our colleague) told me she wants to return to Brazil as soon as possible, because she misses her pal and family, especially the nephews...also her culture and hear Portuguese). Well, anyway, here's what really matters: She's not just intelligent, she's also gorgeous, really is, extremely beautiful and hot... but her attribute that I most like is that she's very decent...I noticed that because almost every singles men from office asked her out, and she didn't accept none. I was so curious about her, that I called Ricardo, a pal from Brazilian's branch office, and he said she's divorced with no kids; She got married at 17, with her 1st BF, who is 15 years older, and is court judge. She DIVORCED him last year, at age 27! (now she's 28)! Her marriage ended because of HIS JEALOUSY+ HE HIT HER+ she had an ABORTION because of this! (I was shocked when I found). Ricardo (yeah, he told me a lot) also said she's always receiving flowers, but never accept a date. She's single since she got divorced last year! So, that's her. Will she bring me trouble? I disagree... Well, now that I know that she says NO to everyone, and besides she's so silent and closed that never comes to our glad hour, how can I approach her? I want a serious relationship...If I could prove that I'm not like that Brazilian she divorced! I never felt this before, and I'm not exaggerating! p.s: I'm so nervous, sorry for the confusion...
14 Mar 2010, 1:16 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: how does a hope chest relate to china? -help a freshman do her hw. its late already :[ -sigh-?
hope chest- a box containing things such as towels bedlinins quilts stored by unmarried women in the anticipation of future marriage. so please answer the question. ily ! [:
14 Mar 2010, 11:37 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: What would you do in my situation? Serious answers, please.?
Well, for starters, i'm not looking for any criticism. I'm just looking for some advise, maybe some personal experiences. So, i'm about 4 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and i have been looking into abortion. For us, we feel as if it would be the best thing to do. I'm 18 and he's 20. I currently do not have a job, but he does. This year i was planning on getting my high school diploma, getting a job and moving out with my boyfriend. That's not going to happen if we end up keeping this baby. I really want to receive my high school diploma. I would rather be financially ready before i have a child so that i can lift him/her better. It doesn't help that we both live with our parents. It also doesn't help that his mom thinks i want to wait until marriage to have sex. She thinks that i'm still a virgin. My boyfriend is more than willing to pay for the abortion. Originally, it was my idea to receive one.. The problem is, we're trying to receive it done without anyone knowing. We have no car for transportation. The nearest clinic that will actually give me the abortion isn't in my town.. We'd have to travel out of town, and we don't have buses that go out of town anymore. We would HAVE to receive someone to steer us. Anyone in my family is not an option. My family can't find out about this. The same goes with his family. We just don't want anyone to find out about this. I want to receive this abortion quickly so that i don't receive attached to the baby. I'm already having pregnancy symptoms and it's getting in my head. I want this baby out of me, as cruel as it may sound. We simply just aren't ready to support a baby right now. So, what would you do? Rude comments aren't really necessary, kay? Thanks. :)
14 Mar 2010, 11:32 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Was This Store Worker Hitting on Me?
Ok I went into Gap today and I decided to try on some polos and vnecks. I have an athletic lean built and am around 6 foot 175. I have pretty big/toned arms and am tan skin since I am indian. However, there was this girl who had a marriage ring on that was helping me out. I initially tried on a medium size polo since thats what I usually wear. However, this girl asked me to try on a tiny when the sleeves on the medium was already tight. I ended up trying on the tiny and it made me look like some gay male model since it was really slim battle and made my arms like bulge out of the sleeves. She said the medium look good but I looked sexy in the tiny and that it like made my physique stand out. She then brought me like 5 other polos and asked me to try them on in the tiny and brought like vnecks and said I want to look what you look like in those. She like grabbed my shoulder too to like turn around. Then when this other worker came to give her advice I heard her saying when i was changing that "He has a really nice build and body and the tiny looks really good on him" I kept getitng mediums to try on and she kept saying try the tiny on and went out to go like pick out a tiny for like 8-12 shirts. Is this what store workers at like Gap and Banana Republic do?
14 Mar 2010, 11:30 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: boyfriend pressuring me for sex..unusual situation,help?
hey.so im a senior in high school and so is my bf. we've been together for a year 1/2 today. we've done everything but sex. ive told him so many times that i am saving myself for marriage. i really am,and nothing will change my mind. but every so often, we'll be in the heat of the moment, and he'll be every 'oh lets do it, i want to **** you so difficult..lets do it' but i stand my ground and say no. and as an excuse,he'll later say 'oh sorry,i was just saying that 'cause we were really into the moment' (and bs like that) Yesterday, we were kissing, and he started talking about it again. but instead (as a test) i said, 'when are we going to do it' and he said 'how about the next time we have the home/car alone'..and i was stunned because i was expecting him to say on our marriage night (if we were to be married). guys-do you say that stuff just to 'make the mood more sexy' or something? or is this what he really wants....i cant tell. because i believe him every time. what do you think about my situtaion?? =// please help,and thank you :)
14 Mar 2010, 11:22 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Do you think I'm settling?
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 10 months. By the way if this will help anything, I'm 18 and he's 20. I feel like I adore him and he's been talking about marriage and everything. A lot of people have told me I'm settling for the first guy that wants to put a ring on my finger and lately I've been feeling like I am. I mean I understand that I still have a lot of time but at the same time I don't want to be alone if I end this because of a hunch. I know it may sound greedy but I really don't know what to do. And he's in the military and I just don't look how a long distance relationship could work. Please be don't sugarcoat anything about what you every think I should do but don't be an ass about it. Thank you in advance.
14 Mar 2010, 11:00 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Is my husband a caring husband?
My husband and I have a great marriage, we like each other very much as we don't have kids inside or outside the marriage. He always tell me how special I am to him and he does makes me his first priority in everything he does. In addition, he always is looking after me in everything I do, he treats me with so much care that at times I feel like being his daughter instead of his wife. I, on the other hand, have a difficult time eating, because I want to keep myself slim, he checks with me constantly if I have ate and what I have ate...etc..., he likes to make sure that I am taking care of myself. As a police officer, he is good at checking on people without disturbing them, he does that with me, as he show up without me knowing that he is there. He makes sure that I'm okay and that I have everything I need. When I go to the doctor he comes with me and he always ask the doctor how have him look me in regards to my eating habits. He is very supportive in me seeking psychotherapy as he feels that I need to express my feelings and emotions that reflects on my eating and my whole body and mind overall. He comes to therapy with me and sometimes the therapist talks to him and enhances on how can he help me out. I like that he likes to make sure that I am okay, but at times, I feel like I want to be the one in charge, instead. When I receive mad, he sits down and hear to me, sometimes asking questions on what has made me mad or he explains the importance of expressing our thoughts and feelings. When I receive mad, he listens, sometimes, he nodes his head, so I understand that being mad is part of the natural human living. He never raises his voice or screams, he listens instead and let me vent every the mad I have inside. When I feel frustrated or really mad about something, he helps me to calm down before I express my anger, if he found it safe he allows me to express my anger in words. The other day, I wasn't feeling good from a icy I got and he took me to the doctor, he took care of me, brought me soup and made sure that I was okay, the strep throat test was really difficult to take, he hold my hands down, allowing the doc to do what he had to do. In another instance, he allow the doctor to Connect me to an IV to receive nourishment that I was lucking as my doctor found a profound deal of anemia in me. I was really mad at my husband for signing the papers to allow docs to hook me up to an IV. He said that if he could have the okay to hook me up to an IV he will do it himself as I needed. I did not talk to him for weeks after he allow the doc to hook me up to an IV. He is strict about me attending counseling, he thinks that there are lots of issues that I must talk in counseling, the counselor has my permission to talk to my husband if I do not attend visits. My husband test me to look if I had attend. If I don't attend, he interrogates me why the absentee and he is tough with me asking me questions that receive deep into my feelings. When I sob, he sits patiently and listens, he encourage me to talk matters out as he thinks that I tend to swallow my possess feelings in order to avoid dealing with them. Do you think that my husband is a caring husband or not?
14 Mar 2010, 10:43 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: What high school classes would be helpful if I want to be a counseling psychiatrist?
I'm doing a project, and I need to consider what high school classes would be helpful if I want to study counseling psychology, which basically is being a counselor for families, kids, teens, marriage, and so on. Can anyone help who knows the high school classes? I need basic classes, or classes provided at your school, any high school!!
14 Mar 2010, 10:35 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Something I found confusing about astrology in general that had me thinking today?
I couldnt find much info on this question so I thought I ask here. so few days ago, I went to an astrologer who happen to be one of my best pal's mom. I never really believed in astrology much although I always kept an open mind to it because hey you never know right? lol anyway so she read my chart and some of the things she said was fairly accurate although it was a bit contradicting at times. She also mentioned that I will marry twice in my life and that the partner I will pick will surprise those who know me best. So that same night I started thinking how exactly can the planet and stars predict that I will marry 2 times specifically? Like how does that work? why not 3? lol I always believed that marriage was something that was created by us as a society so how can the astrology look that? I also remember watching this show on the discovery channel that its unnatural for humans to be monogamous. and also when she said that the people around me will be surprise by my choice of partner, i mean wouldnt she need to read their birth chart to know if they will be surprised or not? I thought a birth chart was only suppose to reflect one's self, not others? I felt like asking her but didnt want her to take it as an offense since shes my best friends mom and every and I dont mean to attack or bash astrology in any way. I'm actually sort of interested in it but sometimes I cant help but question certian things that make me doubt its real. i wasnt "thinking" about it every the time its jsut something I wondered im too young to receive married anyway lol plus the high rates of divrose in this country hmm I wouldnt be surprise if I do receive married twice or 5 times lol thats why I also thought it can apply to almost anyone...
14 Mar 2010, 10:23 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: My Husband won't work and I feel trapped !!?
I've been married for 12 years. When I first got with my husband we both worked average to minimum paying jobs. He was a difficult worker. The year after we were married I went to school to try to increase our income and hopefully make our life better. We lived in a falling down old home on land that belongs to his parents. As soon as I finished school, he went pretty much part time. I had my kids from a previous marriage and he had his. After I got out of school, I took extra work to keep money to try to buy us our possess home. He didn't want to move away from his mom so I compromised and we bought a double wide mobile home and put it on his parents land. (Biggest mistake I made) Since he went part time, the extra money I now made went to pay every the home hold bills and really didn't make us any better off then we were before. A few years passed and I decided to yet again, go back to school to try to better our life. During this time, his child has gone to live at the other parents and he now has child support to pay as well. He had been paying his vehicle payment and child support but that is every. I paid everything else. I graduated again and took a good paying job but have to steer 2 hours round trip. I want to move but since I graduated this time he has totally quit working and now I have to pay everything including his vehicle payment and child support. He won't work and he doesn't even help clean at the home. He has cooked a couple of times but it's always stuff he likes and I don't. The home is a mess, I leave before daylight and receive home most nights after dark and have to usually cease to receive food before I arrive home. Not sure what to do. I have mentioned several times he should go to work but we just end up in a battle. As long as I keep my mouth close and work and pay the bills everything is fine. The minute I say anything, we battle and things are miserable. I don't know what to do. I feel trapped. The double wide is in my name and I can't just leave. The home is on his parents land and I can't even keep the money to move it because it takes everything I make to pay the bills yet again !! No matter what I do I can't receive ahead. I sometimes wonder if that isn't what he wants. He knows if it takes everything I make to pay the bills, I won't be able to move the home and I will be stuck, which I am !! I don't want to just let the home go and ruin what little credit I do have. I feel so unhappy every the time and sso trapped like there's nothing I can do. I didn't make the choice to have a husband who refuses to work nor did pick to live here forever !! But here I am and I'm trapped. What can I do ? He has changed so much and so has my life and no matter what I do it doesn't receive any better. Sometimes I think I was better off when I was single living in an apartment making minimum wage. What can I do?
14 Mar 2010, 10:21 pm | click here for answers
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