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Open Question: How would you feel if this happened to you...?

So here's my situation: For personal reasons my husband and I are living in two different places right now. It's been 3 months since he's seen me or his son and I'm 30 weeks pregnant with our 2nd. We were both in Alabama with his mom but I couldn't handle being there any longer so now I'm in Illinois. He planned on coming to live with us this month. The reason why I'm upset is because he traveled from AL to Indiana where his brother, sis-in-law, and their kids are to look/stay with them for a while. His excuse was he wanted to look his family. I want to be understanding since that's his family but I'm not. For one because he doesn't have enough money to make it here to Illinois and he risked not seeing me and his son to be there. For two his sis-in-law always has different women coming over (who are very sexual) and it's difficult to trust someone in that situation no matter how difficult I try. For three he doesn't even care how I feel and I'm to the point where I don't even care anymore. I really don't want to end my marriage but things like this always happen. Now he's stuck there and instead of coming straight here with his family (wife and son) he's there with no way to receive here. He's not working now so he doesn't have money, I don't know if they'll give him money, and I'm a stay at home mom for now. I'm so unhappy, mad, and confused. Any advice? Thank you...sorry it's so long.

5 Jan 2009, 6:18 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: When does an affair count?

I was talking to a pal about her past marriages and pointed out she has an affair in each marriage and she said "they don't count". What the heck? Since when does having an affair not count? What can she possibly be thinking?

5 Jan 2009, 6:18 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Obama does not support gay marriage?

Not a question, a fact. I am an Obama supporter, I really wish he did support gay marriage, but apparently no one knows that he does not, so I decided to inform you. Thanks.

5 Jan 2009, 6:16 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Does any one else feel like marriage is a requirement in life? ?

I have been thinking about marriage a lot and how it doesn't really seem to be a choice anymore. Of course, it is in fact a choice, but most people look it as their duty to find a partner to marry and have a family with. It's like you can't be glad unless you wed and have kids. Personally, I don't want kids (but i'm young, i'll probably change my mind). My mom assumes that I am going to find someone in my mid-tardy 20's and receive married and start a family. I told her that isn't what I wanted, and that is not right for someone like me. She was instantly horrified. Anyway, It seems like society tries to plan out peoples lives. I don't want to be looked at like I'm a freak if I'm 30 and not married, or don't have kids. I don't want to be tied down so early. That may sound greedy, but it's the truth. I'm only 16, so please don't yell at me for being ignorant if you disagree.

5 Jan 2009, 6:16 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Should I let my mother move in with me?

I am 38, single, female, no husband or kids but I haven't ruled it out yet. My mom's second marriage just ended and she needs a place to stay. At first she said she would just stay 2 or 3 months, until she gets a job and a place of her possess, but now she talks as if she is moving in with me permanently! Although my mom and I receive along well in recent years, we have a very tumultuous history. Bottom line, she was an abusive parent for most of my life. She tends to just take what she wants, assuming it's fine with everyone, and I tend to be the doormat who always let her. Childhood fear of her not loving me if I didn't, blah blah blah. I'm afraid if I tell her no, she'll never talk to me again. But if I tell her yes, I'm afraid she'll bully me and take advantage of me.

5 Jan 2009, 6:14 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: is sex meaningful to you? or is it temporary pleasure?

is sex special to you? is it more of a deep connection and understanding between you and your partner? do you believe in "making adore"? did you or are you planning to wait until marriage? did you or are you planning to wait until you find someone you adore and care about? is sex sacred to you? or do u believe in plain old fashioned fu*king? one night stands? sex full of lust and hornyness? orgys? threesomes? in the moment nice of thing? a one time sort of thing that u had with a person? or one of those times you got drunk..again? well for me sex definitely has its meaning, i like "adore making", sex that is full of adore and passion and is sacred. its something so meaningful to me and i wudnt just do it with anybody...although i do admit to being intimate with strangers at parties, but not involving intercourse (use your imagination) and yea i was very drunkk and well its highschool. but ive changed and i wont let that happen again until i find someone that i adore and really care about beacause it makes it every that much more meaningful and memorable.:) but thats just my opinion.

5 Jan 2009, 6:13 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Am I expecting too much from him or is he letting me down?

I asked this on Singles and Dating, but I didn't receive any decent answers. I guess, since I'm not 16 and asking, "Does he like me?" My questions a little too complicated for that crew. So, can you please help? I've dated my boyfriend for 5 years now. I'm 25 and he's 31. Currently, I live with my parents and things were going pretty well. But, there has been a lot of tense lately. I think they're going to ask me to receive my possess place. The thing is, I only make about $28,000 a year, as a teacher. I do have plans to go back to school and receive a better paying position. But, that's at least 2 years away My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage and living together. We've done it quite often. I recently approached him with my issues. I told him that I thought my parents were going to ask me to leave and that I needed to find housing. My boyfriend knows every my pal's are currently living with their significant others or are currently renting and have roommates. My boyfriend also knows I'm opposed to finding a roommate via suggestions from friends or places like craiglist or other avenues. My boyfriend and I were dating when I had a bad experience with a "random" roommate and I vowed never do it it again. I suggested we move in together. We've talked about it in the past and we agreed it's something we want to do. But, he keeps saying, "Are you sure we're ready. Are you sure we'll have enough money? Where will we go?" I understand he's nervous about the money aspects. I am too. But, it seems like now or never. I don't have many options and I thought he's be more open to the idea. It's not 100% ideal, but we have to take the plunge sooner or later and I'm running out of time. I only have a few more months, before my parents ask that I leave. Am I asking too much of him? It's been 5 years and I'm in a pretty tough spot. I should mention, rent is about $1500 a month where I live. My income is really far behind what most of my other college educated friends are making. Most people make about 45K a year.

5 Jan 2009, 6:11 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: up and downs of marriage ?

could you give me some of your thoughts and maybe experiences of the up and downs of marriage ? as i am going to receive married next year hopefully and i want to know what im getting into from people who are already in this commitment so i know for my benifit and so i can prepare myself thanks !!

5 Jan 2009, 6:10 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Can an illegal immigrant get their green card or citizenship if they have a juvenile record?

So my girlfriend moved here from the Philippines when she was about 8 years old. she was legal for about a year. her parents never helped her to change her immigration status although they are legal green card holders. Her brother was born here so he is legal too, so she is the only one who isn't legal in her family. She is now 18 and can't receive any i.d., or drivers license, BUT he has a social security number. But when she was about 15 or 16, she got a misdemeanor and got charged with petty theft because she was with a pal who shoplifted. Everyone told her that her record would be sealed when she turned 18. Is it possible for her to still receive citizenship? Maybe through marriage or amnesty? What can she do? And what can I do to help her?

5 Jan 2009, 6:09 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Cheating on my wife?!?!?!?

I have been cheating on my wife fr the last six months with her ex best pal Kelly. They had a very bad falling out and REALLY don't like each ither anymore. I never really talked to her much but then at a pal of mine's 4th of July party, I ran into her and we got talking. I was nice of drunk and she was also. Add in the fact that she has DD's (AT LEAST, forgot to check her bra ;) ) as compared to my wife's B cups and yeah I cheated, so what? We've been doing it ever since and I don't really feel guilty. As soon as my wife and I got back from our honeymoon, she has completely changed, quit working and has become a b!tchy worthless control freak. What's really silly is that when we were dating she was the complete opposite. Knowing that women do this to receive the guy to the point that he can't leav her without giving up half of his crap. Anyway, my real question is is there any way that I can leave her without iving her half or every of my crap? Annolement? (sp) Separation? Do the bullsh!t divorce laws apply to these methods of ending a marriage? Strew, what a way that would be to go!!

5 Jan 2009, 6:07 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Was I wrong for sending the pics?

Me and my wife have been separated for over a year now, because of her cheating with a married man. The guys wife contact me and asked if I had pics of my wife and her husband together. She makes every the money and wants out of the marriage. I sent her the pics I had of my wife and her husband. My wife has been telling me she wanted to work out our marriage. Now she is pissed and is trying to keep me from seeing my kids! She said I was low down for doing that to him. Was I? I was only trying to help the lady. I've had the pics over a year and had no intention of sending them to anyone.

5 Jan 2009, 6:02 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Ladies; did you feel pressured to get married young?

I did. I had been a bridemaid 7 times, and my mom was worried. I gave in to the pressure. The marriage didn't work. But, mom repaid every social debt she owed to society when she had "my" wedding. It was a hell of a party. Let me add; it was acceptable to receive an engagement ring for graduation.

5 Jan 2009, 5:59 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Where in the Quran or Hadiths does it reveal any of God's other Prophets having 9 year old little girl wives?

If the "real" God approves of grown men like Muhammed consummating a marriage with 9 year old Aiesha, why didn't any of the Other Prophets do the same?

5 Jan 2009, 5:57 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Why do you think he doesn´t confirm the meeting?

I left my husband nearly 2 years ago,after 20 years of marriage after knowing that he was having a long affair with his secretary.As soon as I left he started living with her full time. The fact is that he asked me for an appointment which I accepted .He told me he will confirm but he never did.I asked him what for but didn´t answer.I have been told that life with his mistress is a real hell.We have to solve many businesses.I can´t understand his attitude,if he´s with her why is it so difficult to confront me ?

5 Jan 2009, 5:56 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: How Come women always grieve more than men during divorce?

my ex partner, claims he was in the marriage the whole 10 yards for nearly 3 years... which, short quick story was a lie. He would ALWAYS play the "single act" on Myspace/Facebook/ yahoo messenger to girls from our hometown, and he when we used to visit home he claimed he was with his "BFF". psh. so Once Again, I caught him playing the single act even before we traveled him and Just told him, look... you want to be single then go! Give me a Divorce, because I was sleepy of trying and being the one miserable. I have been faithful, trusting, given it everything i had until there's nothing left of me..... so, now the papers are being finalized, and I have NO regrets, but it's killing me wanting to know.. the life we shared, the 2 year old we have, how can he just toss everything to the side and consume himself with himself? if that makes since? The whole time he was home, for 15 days. he saw our kid 3 times. for less than 3 hours a day. I've snooped his myspace account recently "just to look" and There are over 15 new intrests emailing him! How do you just do that??????

5 Jan 2009, 5:55 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Renewing our vows only after five years?

Is it a silly idea for my husband and I to renew our vows only after five years of marriage? When I tell some family members about this, they aren't excited about the idea, so am I missing something here? We got married in a courthouse before I left for the Navy; actually, we weren't planning to receive married that day, but the Navy wanted time to finalize some paperwork before I left, so we were told to receive married that day. It was special, but I want something more meaningful--maybe renew our vows in a church because we didn't the first time around? We aren't very religious, but it would be nice to make it official in the home of God. I don't know if I want to invite family members or make anything lavish about it. I just want a nice, simple ceremony, but maybe with a professional photographer because we only have four photographs from our courthouse wedding. Any advice?

5 Jan 2009, 5:53 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: My mom is getting married help!!!!?

Ok so my mom is marring this guy shes been dating for a while(second marriage) but i dont think i like him, he doesnt talk to me hardly and he can be wierd at times. Im really glad my moms glad but i just need some advice please!!!

5 Jan 2009, 5:52 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Was Mary, the mother of Jesus, a virgin all her life?

or did she have a normal physical marriage relationship with Joseph, her husband? I think that the Catholic Church believes she was "ever a virgin" ie every her life. However, if this is so, it makes a mockery of the sanctity of marriage and would, in fact, be grounds for an annulment in the gift Catholic church in modern times if there was no sexual contact between them. Also, as the Church is so against sex except within the confines of marriage, it gives the impression of sex being wrong which is reinforced by the idea that Mary was 'tainted' by having sex if she had a proper marital life with Joseph. What are your views?

5 Jan 2009, 5:51 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Should I Feel Bad That My Boyfriend Isn't Stepping Up Or.....?

am I expecting too much? I've dated my boyfriend for 5 years now. I'm 25 and he's 31. Currently, I live with my parents and things were going pretty well. But, there has been a lot of tense lately. I think they're going to ask me to receive my possess place. The thing is, I only make about $28,000 a year, as a teacher. I do have plans to go back to school and receive a better paying position. But, that's at least 2 years away My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage and living together. We've done it quite often. I recently approached him with my issues. I told him that I thought my parents were going to ask me to leave and that I needed to find housing. My boyfriend knows every my pal's are currently living with their significant others or are currently renting and have roommates. My boyfriend also knows I'm opposed to finding a roommate via suggestions from friends or places like craiglist or other avenues. My boyfriend and I were dating when I had a bad experience with a "random" roommate and I vowed never do it it again. I suggested we move in together. We've talked about it in the past and we agreed it's something we want to do. But, he keeps saying, "Are you sure we're ready. Are you sure we'll have enough money? Where will we go?" I understand he's nervous about the money aspects. I am too. But, it seems like now or never. I don't have many options and I thought he's be more open to the idea. It's not 100% ideal, but we have to take the plunge sooner or later and I'm running out of time. I only have a few more months, before my parents ask that I leave. Am I asking too much of him? It's been 5 years and I'm in a pretty tough spot.

5 Jan 2009, 5:50 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: What is your opinion on marriage? Question for both single and married people?

I posted this yesterday in marriage and divorce section....would like to receive more answers from single people, so am posting it again in this section. Well I am 28. I have lots of things I would like to do in life, so I don't think I have time for marriage and kids. But am curious if married people are really glad with marriage and if given another choice whether they would be single or married. And what are the challenges of being married and being single. so my question is if you are married? What are the advantages of being married? Are you glad with marriage? What are the challenges of marriage? If you are happily single (especially older people with experience)? WHat are the advantages of beign single? What are the challenges you face? THanks everyone in advance for sharing your perspective some advantages of staying single: more time for pursuing your passions, more freedom, not much responsibility or worries, so freedom to pick what you want to do, or freedom to move to different place and change jobs. No drama, no fighting, no kids, no fear or alimony etc. Advantages of marriage?? I will let happily married people answer this

5 Jan 2009, 5:46 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Keeping the marriage fresh?

My wife said we should do something different on our anniversary this year. I've no idea what she did, but I got a soapy tít w@nk off her sister.

5 Jan 2009, 5:45 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: If it's called it something besides gay marriage, would you approve?

If gays created their possess "title" for their commitment, besides marriage, would you vote to give it the full rights that a marriage would have below the law.

5 Jan 2009, 5:40 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: is this my nature that is creating mess in our marriage relationship or his....what do u think?

we got married 2 years b4 the biggest problem with me is that if i got any issues with anything of my husband i straightly ask him i cannot hold that in me i have to talk about this and after discussion we have to take a final decision but husband he is opposite if he feels anything wrong going on with me he just gives me a hint and never wants to talk about this,that frustrate me and i hurt my self badly.after i hurt my self than he is like start discussing with me i don know why he do this to me..... and what do u think about the answer of this person......... the lady is always right... even when she's wrong, she's right.

5 Jan 2009, 5:40 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Do old-fashioned romantic ideas just not exist in relationships and marriages anymore.?

5 Jan 2009, 5:39 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: can you be married without a marriage license?

should a church make you leave if you don't have a marriage license, the church of christ can

5 Jan 2009, 5:38 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Why don't gays create their own ceremony, call it something besides instead of marriage.?

Since the majority of Americans, religious and otherwise, seem to find the idea of marriage between sex couples so offensive, why don't gays create their possess thing, call it something besides a marriage, and demand it have every right that a marriage would have. If the majority of Americans would agree to it, would this solve the problem? Or, create more problems.

5 Jan 2009, 5:37 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Are relationships and marriages starting to suffer from a lack of common courtesy and compliments ?

5 Jan 2009, 5:36 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Christians: why can't you focus on something more important than homosexuality?

I'm obviously not talking about every Christians. I just know so many people who make a huge deal about gay marriage, and don't really try and cease every of the murder and wars going on in the world. Rather than holding up Yes on 8 signs(california), why don't you donate to charity or something? I understand how this question can be offensive but it's really just my curiosity.

5 Jan 2009, 5:36 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Do any other men role-play with their wives like this and is she overreacting?

My wife left me and I've been a wreck for the last few months. I've even started drinking a little, like I did back in college. We were married for fifteen of the best years life could give. We adopted a kid from China and he's now off in college. We are both associates at law firms (different ones). Things were good. Now they aren't Right before she left a few months ago, I came up with a rule that made me "master" of the home. I am a clean freak, so I do every the cleaning in the home, and I never ordered her to cook or so on..... I just was in control of her behavior and movements. If she wanted to watch TV she had to ask. If she wanted to leave the home she had to ask. If she wanted to turn the radio on...(you receive the point). I would watch her very closely at every times--like a bird in the sky--and if I saw her do anything I didn't approve of I would make her drop her pants and panties immediately then paddle or spank her until she couldn't take anymore. It worked for a while--least I thought it was working. Outside of the home, we were just like any other couple--we held hands, both drove the car, both argued with each other--but at the home I was in complete control of her movements and behavior. She met me at a park (outside the home) a few months ago and told me she couldn't take it anymore. She even hugged me and said she still loved me but just couldn't take the erotic spankings and whippings anymore. Considering how much I adore being in control of her at the home, there is no way I can compromise there. But is there a way to receive my wife to move back in? Too many years of marriage to toss away at this point.

5 Jan 2009, 5:26 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Please read this if you've ever been in love. It's my first time and i need advice?

I know this is long, but please read it- I have a problem with my relationship and relationships in general. I don’t know why I’m so afraid to let someone adore me and trust someone with my adore for them. I had a bad break up before. Our relationship wasn’t that long, but the break up was drawn out over a couple months, and things were left unsaid, and other things lied about. Other people got involved, and in the end everyone got hurt. This man I’m with now I assumed would be my rebound after this last relationship, but we’ve now been together for 8 months and he’s the first person I’ve ever said I adore you to (not the first that has said it to me, though). Everything was so wonderful, like it always is in the beginning. He couldn’t have been more perfect. He brought me flowers, was incredibly patient and courteous- the epitome of chivalrous. I’ve never met a more passionate person, or a better kisser. Other than that the physical stuff isn’t great though. He doesn’t believe in sex before marriage, but we do everything else. And although I make sure that he finishes, I’ve faked it every time. I can deal with that though. Or at least I could, I’m not so sure anymore. This isn’t the main thing that’s worrying me though, except it is part of the problem. I don’t know why I have such a difficult time with commitment. Maybe it’s because of bad relationships, or a general distrust for a lot of men (For the most part guys are only interested in my because of the way I look), but I’m terrified of loosing control over my possess life. I’ve spent the last 8 months of my life with this person. My relationships with my friends have become strained, and I no longer feel in control of my emotions. It scares me so much that he this effect on me. I’m terrified to brake up with him, because I know that it would be so much worse than that last breakup, which tore me to pieces. I know that the longer I stay in this relationship, the harder that break up will be. I’m so scared of loosing him, even though I know that he would never break up with me. I know he adores me, and I thought I adored him, but it seems like ever since I told him that I adore him, he’s become so comfortable with me that he’s no longer so perfect. I don’t feel as excited to be around him anymore. Is that natural? Is this supposed to happen? I’ve been in a lot of almost relationships where I called them off before they got too serious, but I’ve never let someone this close to me, and I’ve never been so open with someone as I have with him. I feel so vulnerable. I know I’m being irrational, but I have been crying for the last 45 minutes over this. If anyone could help me, or if they understand what I’m feeling or have been through this before, could you please give me some advice?

5 Jan 2009, 5:25 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Do i have any legal recourse for blackmail?

Background: When I was about 9 yrs old an older cousin (then 17) began to molest me this went on for 2 or 3 yrs. (I'm now 32) I'd only told 1 person until a month ago when I confided in my wife of 8 yrs the adore of my life and mom of my child. The problem is to cope w/this alone I masturbated obsessively sometimes 5 times a day while watching porn, then I moved up to paying prostitutes for hand jobs and oral sex. The reason I told my wife is because she caught me in an affair. The other lady meant nothing to me she was a substitute for my hand and the prostitutes she saved me money and the possibility of being arrested. I ended the sexual part weeks before my wife found out and tried to end every contact but this lady constantly asked "what would *** do if she knew?" "what would *** say?" My question is would this be considered blackmail and is there anything I can do legally? Before you tell me I'm a dog or pig know that I know it already. I would die to take away the hurt I've caused my wife she is my rock and my everything she doesn't deserve this. We are tryin go work our marriage out. While I know this is my doing I didn't act alone (she knew my wife BEFORE she knew me) she wasn't blinded by lies. I'm paying for what I've done everyday and I deserve every bit of it. What I don't deserve is my wife giving me a second chance but she is. If it makes you feel better to rag on me go ahead. i'd just like to know what if anything I can do legally about the blackmail in SC?

5 Jan 2009, 5:21 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Step-son conflict! What do I do?

My husband and I have each had kids from a previous marriage. He has three (two girls ages 5 and 9 and a boy, almost 11)and I have three (three girls ages 1 1/2, almost two and 4, although my 4 year old is my adopted niece). And in about two weeks we will be adding one more member to our family: a baby boy. Our kids receive along great, my husband gets a long great with my kids and I receive along great with his two daughters. However, my step-son and I have always had problems even before I married his dad. I would call and he would answer and say "Dad's not home, but I'll tell him you called." Three days later I'll call back and my (now) husband would say "I never got a message." The day we got married he refused to be his dad's best man (which I didn't mind. It's his choice). After we returned from our honey moon, my husband had him fix up the master bathroom for me. He put pictures of his mom every on my half. I've always told myself that he just feels I'm replacing his mom. Every time he does something like this, I remind him I'm not trying to be his mom, I just want to be a pal. But this is what really was the straw that broke the camel's back. I dropped everyone but my 1 1/2 year old off at school, preschool or daycare (my 1 1/2 year old was sick), did my usual errands, went back home, met with a few clients (I'm a wedding planner and I work from home) and made some lunch for my daughter. At around 1:30 I go upstairs to put my daughter down for a nap and I hear noise coming from my step-son's room. I open the door and find him sitting there on his bed. I asked what he was doing there. He told me had ditched school and ran home and had been in his room for awhile. I told him I was going to call his dad and he jumped up and said "If you do I'll tell Dad that you were talking to your ex-husband on the phone! And I'll say that your planning on leaving him!" None of that is true. I told him he has no right to talk to me that way. He said "Your not my mom!" and I said "I may not be but you have no right to talk to ANY adult that way!" and he smacked me and shoved me into the wall. He screamed "I hate you!" I held my hand to my cheek and left the room. I called my husband and told him everything. When he came home that night he grounded my son for four weeks. One week for skipping school, one week for talking back and two weeks for smacking me and shoving me into the wall (it would normally be one, but my husband considers me two people since I'm pregnant). My step-son yelled and screamed and cried. Last night he came up to me while I was cleaning bathroom dishes and whispered "I'm going to receive you back so good. I'm moving out and telling Dad it's every your fault. I can go live with my Mom!" and walked off. What should I do? About what he said and the way he treats me? Please help! Oh and I made a mistake. My daughters ages are 1 1/2 and almost 3, not almost two.

5 Jan 2009, 5:21 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Do I have any legal recourse for being blackmailed?

5 Jan 2009, 5:19 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: How would you feel???????????

How would you feel if your dad said "do you want to ruin my marriage" and "your seventy-five percent of the reason your mom and i battle"and would it bother you how would it effect you?

5 Jan 2009, 5:15 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: what are some religious views on gay marriage?

religious people that are for gay marriage!

5 Jan 2009, 5:14 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Can I avoid repo on vehicle ex is not paying on?

Divorced a few months. Court order said ex is to make timely payments on truck that is in both names; and if more than 2 months in arrears that vehicle had to be surrender to me for sale. Out of 12 months he's been tardy 9 times. He is now over 2 months behind. The resale value is approx. $2000 less than the loan. He has a repossession on a vehicle 5 years ago (from a previous marriage). He's damaged my credit already by being tardy on the payments. How can I avoid a repo without being out the $2500 on the difference between the loan and the resale value? I've talked to him several times but he doesn't care-he has a new wife (I know, he's a piece of work) and if truck gets repo'd he'll receive another one from her. He has the money, just financially irresponsible and since his credit is in the trash he doesn't care about mine.

5 Jan 2009, 5:12 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: I am looking for wedding priest. ?

I don't know how to explain this in detail : I'm looking for the priest that going to witness our wedding ceremony. So i can receive the approval from the dad/priest. Afterward I'm going to the City Hall apply for my marriage certificate. Can someone give me the website or the address of it Thank you

5 Jan 2009, 5:11 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: I asked this on the marriage/divorce category. Would like to hear from more people.?

Seriously, what would you think about a person who scratches their bums (deep) and then smells their fingers and licks them off? Also, they find stinky below arms sensual. I'm not talking full probe, just right to the entrance and around it.

5 Jan 2009, 5:11 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Why haven't gay activists made gay marriage a freedom of religion issue?

Let me preface by saying I'm a straight guy who is for civil rights and against religious oppression. Why not receive married below whatever religion is most widely accepted that allows homosexual marriage, to make the claim that Prop 8 violating your freedom of religion? I think the civil rights case is very strong, but why not back it up with freedom of religion too? Linz, sure, I didn't mean it like that. But surely there is a couple who fits the bill, who could be the "Loving v. Virginia" for gay marriage. Truth Seeker: That doesn't matter. It only has to violate the rights of the few to be an issue. Linz. Haaaaa. Yes. That is me, in Viet Nam, wearing a shirt from Target. cease saying its not a religious issue! The church made it a religious issue! battle flame with flame! Fire back on every cylinders! I'm not saying abandon the civil rights issue, but if you want to win the war (and ESPECIALLY the PR war), then you should show how your freedom to be married below YOUR possess GOD is being violated! Spanky G: Either gay activists care enough, or nobody does. Funding for litigation can arrive from activist organizations. And knowing what ought to be doesn't make it so. Someone has to step up to the dish. ladygothkiller: NO!!! Wrong!! It only has to violate the freedom of ONE COUPLE. That is every it takes! Gay Marriage was outlawed by the church. You KNOW this. They ARE violating your freedom of religion by imposing theirs on you. Even if you have no religion or do not look marriage as religious, they are imposing their religion on you! But you need a clear example of this to show the court. Why do I care so much about this? Why am I so passionate? I really don't know. I really hate Prop H8, even though it doesn't directly affect me. Anyhow, food for thought. I do appreciate the input. I'm more aware of the aversion. But still, I believe this is an excellent idea. Not just for the courts, but also to sway public opinion.

5 Jan 2009, 5:11 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: How many times per week do most couples have sex less than 10 years into marriage? ?

Just wondering......;-)

5 Jan 2009, 5:08 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Does your marriage or romance need a relationship rescue?

5 Jan 2009, 5:05 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: why do women try to change their mans dressing style? ?

they liked them when they were dating, but after the marriage they ask or tell them they want them to dress a diff way

5 Jan 2009, 5:03 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Would You Support a Marriage of Incest?

Yes or No. What if one or both individuals had themselves "fixed" first? Please give detailed answers. Thanks.

5 Jan 2009, 5:00 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Clinical Psychology Grad School...?

Right now I'm working on getting my B.S. in Psychology with a concentration in Clinical Psych. I really want to receive into a top university to continue my education. I want to receive my Ph.D in Clinical Psychology to practice Marriage & Family Therapy and Sex therapy. What steps should I take to become a more competitive applicant?

5 Jan 2009, 4:59 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: For psychics: Friend in trouble?

I've been thinking a lot about a pal of mine since last year. I feel her marriage is still in trouble and her husband isn't honest. They just had a baby 5 months ago and I believe my pal thought that a kid would solve their marriage problems but obviously it hasn't. I think she's not telling me the whole truth of what's going on and intuitevely I feel she's not glad at every. Am I right? Is there a way I can help her?

5 Jan 2009, 4:59 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Attractive or Unattractive? (Guys)?

100% honesty! -A girl who is fairly short, but not someone you wanna call a midget. -Has blonde hair that is pretty long but not long where you wanna chop it off. -Blue eyes like the ocean (turn dark blue, grey, or sometimes greenish blue) -Is usually always silly and sarcastic and makes everyone giggle -Has not the biggest breast in the world, maybe a "cute" butt but not huge -Everyone says she has a nice personality -Has a cute, sweet soft voice -Not shy at every, but not always the loudest person in the group, but can be if she wants -Dresses in a mixture of girly but can tug off tshirt and jeans -Loves loves loves going mudding and having fun -Is saving sex for marriage -Is not considered a slut -Has a pretty face and every but isnt confident in herself -Is usually nice to people even if she doesnt like them -Smart, but not genius -Laughs quite a bit -Always done cheerleading but is not "preppy" or "stuck up" -Not super emotional to where she cries if she doesnt receive to look her boyfriend for one night -Tries to be understand but wil stick up for what she believes in -Wants to go to college and do something with her life -Doesnt smoke, do drugs, etc. -Petite -Isnt attatched to her phone but that doesnt mean you wont look her with it Overall, do you think a girl like this is unnatractive or not? Thanks! I wanna add something -She isnt a girl who HAS to do her makeup or hair before she leaves somewhere because she can do without. But overall, she would prefer to. There are alot of flaws? I mean, if she was perfect, dont you think she would have the perfect body? Dont you think she would be completely confident? Alot of guys dont "dig" the whole saving sex for marriage nice of deal, or having not the biggest breasts and so on, but I didnt say this girl did. There are flaws, but there are also alot of positives.

5 Jan 2009, 4:53 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Are you okay with just sex with cousin or marriage and kids with cousin?

I look many topics on the topix website in the human sexuality forum. So I am wondering. What if no one would find out about the sex? David, my question is not even about homosexuality. Grow up. I don't mean a cousin you look every the time. One who leaves in another state, who you aren't too familiar with.

5 Jan 2009, 4:51 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: If your husband was calling his ex wife and kids are in their 20's?

Long story short. My husband can receive away with calling his ex wife that he was not in contact with for many years and I was the one that pushed him to contact his (kids) Now his kids are 23 and 21 but when they are not home he is talking to his ex for about 1 hour and calls the next night for another 1/2 hour. He doesn't tell me when he calls (very seldom) but I know when he does call. I have the right to know I think being married to him for 14 years. He and I have a good close marriage but he told me she is my pal. I am so upset and hurt inside that I find when he calls and I have spoke to him about it but he doesn't seem to clip this back. I understand a dad should keep in touch with his kids but I tracked calls from November until now and it has been 15 calls and sometimes for one hour at a time. My dad doesn't call me or my sister or brother this much maybe once every week or two. His kids are 23 and 21 and they are out on a friday night so I found he called at 1015pm and spoke to her until 11pm She is 56 and he is 49 and I wonder why would he do this to me. Is he wanting another friendship ? Is he lacking something with me? They live 5 hours away from us and maybe this is his mid life crisis? She never remarried so of course I am sure likes speaking to him but how much can they talk about and about what. They were only married for 5 years and during those years he was away for 2 years and then left her in 1990 ( not for me) I am truly hurt over this and don't know what I should think? My mom said they have a past and history together. They have kids. I can understand if the kids were older but 23 and 21 ... he can call once every week or two but not 1 hour on xmas the next night at 10pm for 1/2 hour then on 12/29 and 1/2 for 1 hour ... while I was out. The thing is I never met her and the kids do not want to meet me. He tried over and over to talk to them but they can not accept every these years later that he is not with their mom. It is driving me nuts because I was the one who told him about 3 years ago receive to know his kids & it backfired in my face. Of course I know he should call his kids but if you saw on the bill how much he calls and your not around and wonder what can be said, what can be spoken about... My husbands mom is close with her and dislikes and she adds my flame to this whole deal by telling them things. it truly is taking an effect on me. As much as I tell him it is bothering me, he seems to be ignoring and disrespecting my feelings. Any advice. thank you As much as I appreciate everyone answers .they are not planning anything for me ... his ex and kids had sent me hateful emails last year that they do not want anything to do with me. He has been disrespecting me by calling so often. it has been 2 long years he has been doing this. I recently found out. yeah he is guilty that he never been a good dad figure to his kids he left them when the y were 5 and 3 ... he told me this already 2westies .... did you ever meet them? does the kids hate you because he isn't with their mom.. it started that they emailed me with hateful words. when he spoke to them about it they told him they don't want to meet me so how do you go about your life and he has like a seperate life with them...

5 Jan 2009, 4:46 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Should I give him an ultimatum?

Ive always thought women were crazy for saying marry me or move on, but Im kinda feeling that way my self. I have been in a relationship for 4 years now. we have lived together since day 1. we refer to each other as husband and wife. i have kids, he does not. he tells everyone the kids are his. i cant have anymore( i had a tubal). well since this fallen economy the past two years have been really difficult we both were laid off from the same company and haven't found permanent work since. He has a cousin in the navy and over the holidays we saw her, she made a suggestion that we join. so we have been talking about it and the benefits. he asked me " what about you, are you going to move where ever i receive stationed?" my answer was "aren't we going to receive married?" he said " no, that would be like me asking you to move away with me and leave your kids." so now im totally confused as to where our relationship is, or is going. marriage has never been a big issue for me because i was married once and it didn't work. and i have felt if we have a good thing going why receive married its only a piece of paper, and this whole military idea was to help us not just him. my resoning for wanting to receive married is because i know me and the kids will not beable to go with him unless we are married

5 Jan 2009, 4:44 pm | click here for answers

Open Question: Help, I discovered I am illegal!!!!!?

Ok.. I am in a huge mess! Until 4 days ago, I did truly NOT know that I was illegal in this country, when I wanted to receive work (applying for SSN). I married my husband 5 years ago here in the US because we decided it was making more sense to live here than in Germany. He has had job since 15 years (now 20) and I just had a tiny store for about 4 years. This is a adore marriage, don't receive me wrong! My husband told me back when we got married, that I was legal. We even got a marriage license for both of us and nobody ever asked me for my visa. I did never engage in any illegal activities (besides the fact that I did not know that I was illegal and did not check the visa regulations)! I am a housewife. I do not know what to do and I am scared to death. every I wanted was to receive a job and pay my taxes the legal way. And no, I did never work below the table or anything like it. Does anyone know what we can do besides me going back to Germany? I live in PA

5 Jan 2009, 4:42 pm | click here for answers

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