Check frequently asked questions about Marriage Help
Open Question: How to stop comparing myself with my ex's wife?
My ex and I broke up 5 years ago. I got really hurt when he broke up with me and started to date the new girl who was his student. He said many many very very bad things to me when I tried to call him when I knew he had a new gf, which I realize now was very unwise for me to do. During the past few months, he had been trying to talk to me. I ignored him until he wrote he wished nothing bad had happened to me. We started talking and he said he was married to the girl after me but the marriage was not working out and he wished he had not broken up with me. He said I played a huge part because he didn't want to hurt her like he hurt me, and he would stay married with her until she gets the green card. But he also said that how smart and nice she is and she got more atrractive and guys tried to receive her attention. I got hurt very much again when I heard every that. I couldn't cease comparying myself with her. I am considered to be a beautiful women, and she was double my size.. I asked why he dated her, he said she tried to help him when he was sick.. I couldn't help thinking what nice of person she is, how smart she is and how attractive she is, and she got go to live with him in Boston and tour around harvard campus because she married him, which was something I pictured that I would do with my ex. I don't want to be with my ex again because he hurt me too much and didn't really apprecaite me. But I hate myself thinking every these, trying to compare myself with her, thinking how smart she is etc. My friends say that I have a great job, beautiful and shouldn't be thinking like that, and I mysell also think it is stupid to think like that, but I just can't help thinking like that and I feel depressed. How do I receive rid of every these thoughts and to be back to the life before I started to talk to him? Thank you for reading every these and any advice is appreciated.
4 Sep 2010, 8:02 am | click here for answers
Open Question: which thing is better for seX after marriage ? Help?
hii i m 24 my marriage is after 4 months. i dont want kids now. after 1 year i will think about it. so i want to know that is condom is better or copper t is better ? or something alse for safe sex. which is more safe ? plz help me guyz.
4 Sep 2010, 7:45 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Wife has given me pure hell over past few weeks.?
First, busted for buying stuff to make meth, then admits addicted to it. Had my 3yo with her when busted. Got her out of jail, and then second whammy, she said she don't want to be with me. Fine, Filing for divorce. NOW, she wants to work things out. I am not sure what to do. Other facts: We have 2 kids with each other and 6 total. (every mine) Her rights paternal rights where suspended when she was arrested, however, they DCS, are holding off doing anything till after her court to look where they are proceeding. She had started talking to other guys online threw some cheater site called myfacebook. And YES it is a cheaters site, every you look on there is cheaters and scum (ANYONE who would go for a married person is scum) BUT says she wont talk to them anymore. (key logger on every computers now)(she agreed to it)(i also have access to cell phone records online to look if she is texting them, and she knows) Ex wife is now living here helping somewhat, but idk, every good for now, but feel like i am sitting on the bow of the Titanic. **She has told me she was diagnosed before with ADHD and BiPolar. but not on meds. My wife agrees that we need marriage counseling, and she needs drug counseling. Is there wish?? anyone out there been in this situation before? My main concern is the kids. (I have custody during this due to state, and would retain them if we divorce so its not a kids thing) and keeping their life somewhat stable.
4 Sep 2010, 7:15 am | click here for answers
Open Question: NEED ASTROLOGERS HELP ONLY?
NEED ASTROLOGERS HELP ONLY? NEED ASTROLOGERS HELP ONLY? SOMEBODY DELETED MY QUESTION SO IM ASKING AGAIN IM GOING THROUGH PROBLEMS...AS I TOLD U THAT IM A NICE GIRL BUT STILL receive DECEIVED... Q...I WANT TO KNW ABOUT MY MARRIAGE LIFE AND Q... HOW WILL BE MY HUSBAND????? Q... WILL WE adore EACH OTHER???? MY DOB IS 7 APRIL1985 POB=KARACHI,PAKISTAN TOB=11:00AM PLZZZZ U every OTHER PEOPLE cease DELETING MY QUESTION.....IM JUST ASKING ASTROLOGERS .......SO PLZZZ DONT GIVE ME FURTHER STRESS..... AND PLZZZ ASTROLOGERS ANSWER ME FOR FREE I CANT AFFORD UR FEES . Additional Details Sir VASUASTRO PLZZZ DONT ANSWER MY QUESTION PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
4 Sep 2010, 6:54 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Utah marriage question Place? Permits? Any advice please.?
My mom really thinks that we need a allow for Tanner Park. I have looked and looked, and have not found anything that says that we have to. Tanner Park, from what I have seen and heard is public, and therefor space cannot be reserved, but I can't find anywhere that says for this specific park if I need a allow. So if anyone could help and shed some light on this, it would be really helpful. The wedding is in 8 months, but I need to receive this figured out in advance, so I can hire people, invite guests. The whole lot. So any advice would be so beneficial. Thank you for your time.
4 Sep 2010, 5:28 am | click here for answers
Open Question: are we eligible for marriage visa?
i and my u.s green card holder boyfriend will receive marry by 2012..after the wedding, he will go back to states immediately..are we eligible to file for a marriage visa? some hearsay said that we need to live together for 1 year after the wedding before he can apply for such visa... but why also many are approved??can somebody help me with this?
4 Sep 2010, 5:24 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Marriage- How do I re-marry islamically, without going out with the guy?
There is a single guy who lives close me, we both like each other. He has family problem's, his sister is disowned by his parent. He rang me twice, which took courage, when I asked who he was, he said his best mates name. I asked his mate, he said it wasn't him. I told his mate that I knew it was his mate. I wasn't supposed to ask his mate. I made everything worse, as the guy I like has stopped talking to me. I texted him that he should have proposed before I got married. I was worried and nervous when he rang. Should I send him a Eid card or a text? I already apologised on his mate's facebook, his mate is also embarrassed of what happened, he doesn't really talk to me anymore. I think I'm still in adore with my childhood sweetheart. I told my sister, she said his family is very complex, and that I should forget everthing, but I can't!!! Help!!
4 Sep 2010, 4:46 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Messy breakup / how to deal with HIS mother.......HELP! Narcissistic?
My fiancee of 1 year recently broke up with me. We are both in our 30's. At the beginning, he was the best man on the planet; attentive, caring, sincere and I thought I had found my soul-mate. Our problems began 6 months after we first started going out so I initiated counselling but it didn't work. Towards the end, he would ignore me, isolate himself in the bedroom to play online poker and yell and swear at me whenever I dared interrupt him or try to talk about our relationship. The arguing got so bad that I twice had to call the police after he threatened to smash my computer and phone. He never physically hit me. He has always been competitive and I have since learned that he also has Narcissistic tendencies. The last time the Police came he was taken to his mom's for a 2 day cooling-off period then he came home. In the days that followed, he would pick fights with me constantly almost like he wanted an explosive battle to justify his leave. Part of me also believes his mom is somehow involved in the demise because since the break-up she has evicted her tenants and has offered him her fully furnished rental property to live in. And since I had no choice but to call the Police, I'm guessing she has me on her "most hated" list. Two weeks down the track we are a couple again and I have forgiven him for his shortcomings. We adore each other very much but he has given up on the idea of marriage Now when I want to visit him, I have to sneak past her place and it feels so wrong :-( Problem is - his mom gave him such a good deal with the rent, there is no incentive for him to want to live together with me. How do I deal with the interferring mom? And is there a future for this relationship? Or am I part of the narcissistic supply?
4 Sep 2010, 3:50 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Messy breakup / how to deal with HIS MOTHER....Help ! Narcissistic?
My fiancee of 1 year recently broke up with me. We are both in our 30's. At the beginning, he was the best man on the planet; attentive, caring, sincere and I thought I had found my soul-mate. Our problems began 6 months after we first started going out so I initiated counselling but it didn't work. Towards the end, he would ignore me, isolate himself in the bedroom to play online poker and yell and swear at me whenever I dared interrupt him or try to talk about our relationship. The arguing got so bad that I twice had to call the police after he threatened to smash my computer and phone. He never physically hit me. He has always been competitive and I have since learned that he also has Narcissistic tendencies. The last time the Police came he was taken to his mom's for a 2 day cooling-off period then he came home. In the days that followed, he would pick fights with me constantly almost like he wanted an explosive battle to justify his leave. Part of me also believes his mom is somehow involved in the demise because since the break-up she has evicted her tenants and has offered him her fully furnished rental property to live in. And since I had no choice but to call the Police, I'm guessing she has me on her "most hated" list. Two weeks down the track we are a couple again and I have forgiven him for his shortcomings. We adore each other very much but he has given up on the idea of marriage Now when I want to visit him, I have to sneak past her place and it feels so wrong :-( Problem is - his mom gave him such a good deal with the rent, there is no incentive for him to want to live together with me. How do I deal with the interferring mom? And is there a future for this relationship? Or am I part of the narcissistic supply? Thanks everyone
4 Sep 2010, 3:49 am | click here for answers
Open Question: what should i do if my 33 year old boyfriend says that he will kill me his mother?
I said he should take the initiative to receive some self help but he says in a rage I'm not crazy and there's nothing wrong with me. When he was arrested in 98 he said they wanted to put him on meds. I thought nothing of it. His lifestylE is of those in the streets. When I was with him I told him to live right or not with me. He couldn't keep a job and blames his faults on me. Were not close to marriage but he thinks its ok for me to harbor him until he gets on track because he lovess me. I say a relation is more than jus adore but also life. When I say this he gets upset. Finally I told him I can't deal nymore. Now he calld while I'm working to tell me he's runnin frm police becasue it seemed like someone wanted to battle him or shoot him. I thought he shouldn'tve been provoked if someones gonna kill ya they're gonna kill ya. But now he says he told his mom he will kill her, for not doing his footwork and neither would I, he's grown and his possess person. Ehat should I do? Or say I want to report him to the cops but I'm afraid he will go bizarre, he says he's sleepy and can't deal nymore. I care about his weLl being because I did make the choice to receive pregnant by him because he showed me the person I wanted
4 Sep 2010, 3:44 am | click here for answers
Open Question: How do I tell my boyfriend who's going into the Army next year..?
that I'm not sure I could deal with it? I know he and I are both very young...but trust me, we DO adore each other very much despite the age. I'm 18, he's 21. He's going into the military next year, but is still deciding on police or military. He's told me many, many times before that if I want the sort of relationship where I receive to look him everyday, he'll stay and do police. I told him not to do this because I'd want him to do what makes him glad. We DO have plans for marriage...but I'm going into university next year to study veterinary surgery and in the beginning the plan was to go to uni, while he was in the police...and we would live in our possess flat together (we worked everything out) then he had thoughts about the Army, and I'm sure that's what he'll pick. My course is going to be a minimum of seven years, and he'll be in the Army for months and months at a time so I doubt we'll look each other very much. I want us to work out more than anything, but the ONE thing I'm really worried about is infidelity. I DO trust him, but no one plans on cheating until it happens..and with every the temptation there for him, I'm not sure I'd be able to handle just thinking about it. I adore him more than anything, and we do have plans for marriage...but I still worry about it everyday. I'd miss him too much, I'm not a very social person, I have no family whom I'm close with, no friends I'm close to. He's basically the only person I'm close with in my life. I tell him everything, I suffer from severe depression (I'm getting help with this) and I don't know what I'd do without him. I sob myself to snooze every night knowing I'm not going to have him in just a few months.I brought up the topic of giving 'us' a break for a few weeks so we could look how it goes, and he almost went into tears. I don't want to end it, but I feel as if this may be best? He and I have this dream where after he's done the Army, and me university he and I will buy a home in the Lake District...but I'm just scared it won't work out. I DON'T want anyone else, I don't care if it's common meeting others in university, he's the only one I want to spend the relax of my life with...but I'm scared I won't be able to handle it. I'm not an emotionally strong person and I'm just afraid. I don't want to tell him that I wouldn't be able to handle him going into the Army because I DO know that if I were to tell him, he wouldn't go. This is his dream, and in 20-30 years I don't want him looking back and regretting his decision...but I'm starting to feel it's best to at least take a break while he's there. How do I go about telling him this? I know that if I tell him he'll start to say "I'l just pick the police instead, I want you more than anything" etc. he's said if it was a problem he would pick it over the Army..but I'd hate myself for it. He goes on and on some days talking about how he's excited for it, and I would hate getting in the way. I'm sorry if I sound greedy..those aren't my intentions, but I just don't know if I could handle it every. I understand we would be togetehr if we're married on base...but I'd like to finish my university course which lasts over seven years. I feel as if HE wants me to give up everything I've wanted to he can go into the Army. How can I tell him I wouldn't be able to handle it?
4 Sep 2010, 2:36 am | click here for answers
Resolved Question: Husbands is cheating wants a divorce, i'm pregnant and don't want it to happen?
Sorry it's so long! Ok so me and my husband have been married for 8 years it has always been a glad marriage at least I thought. we have 4 kids of the ages 8,6,3,and 1 and i'm 5 moths pregnant.I just recently found out again that my husband has been having an affair.I've tried to ignore it but killing me i'm trying to stick out for the sake of our kids but he doesn't care he still continued to look this women and even took her to Paris while he was supposedly on a business trip. He's moved out and bought a home where him and his girlfriend now live. Then this week I got divorce papers and he wants me out of the home and for the kids to live with him and his girlfriend. The kids are upset i'm upset and below alot of stress I don't want this to happen I adore him very much! But it seems like he doesn't even give a crap about me, his kids, or his unborn child. I don't know what to do. My pal tells me that since i live in California I can receive half everything but I don't think it's true.Please help I don't know what to do or how to tell the kids or anything.
4 Sep 2010, 1:17 am | click here for answers
Open Question: How is child custody awarded?
Currently I am married. Well, recently I found out that my husband has been having a relationship with his ex girlfriend. I have copies of every the emails and some text messages. When we moved to Wyoming he told me I didnt have to work as long as I was in school full time. So I dont have a job and I have moved in my possess apartment but he is staying here because we were working on fixing our marriage. We were doing that until I found out lots of other stuff. Now I am not sure if I can work through this, but he has a good job and his family has lots of money and are well known in the tiny town we live in. I am scared that he will take our daughter away from me. I have proof of every the mental and emotional abuse he has put on me. His family has also made my life hell, and they knew what he was doing and never said a word. His mom spread nasty rumors about me, and made me believe that my marriage was falling apart every because of me, that I was the piece of crap. So can anyone help me that may know anything about divorce and child custody. Thank you
4 Sep 2010, 12:53 am | click here for answers
Open Question: after 10 year of marriage i get concive but in 6 week i get missedabortion,now wat i do,dr don't help me?
3 Sep 2010, 9:48 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: Are you disappointed in Barack Obama?
Join the club: 'Obama Girl' kicks Obama to the curb Amber Lee Ettinger, whose racy YouTube video boosted Mr. Obama's campaign popularity, says she's disappointed with his broken promises. Comparing the president to a lying lover, the famous "Obama Girl" warns that when a boyfriend lies, "You kick him to the curb." http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2010/jan/30/obama-girl-kicks-obama-to-the-curb/ Moore sleepy of shooting documentaries, disappointed in Obama Outspoken U.S. filmmaker Michael Moore expressed reluctance recently about shooting new documentaries, saying he is ‘‘sleepy’’ and disappointed with President Barack Obama’s plan for a troop surge in Afghanistan. http://www.japantoday.com/category/entertainment-arts/view/moore-sleepy-of-shooting-documentaries-disappointed-in-obama 'Green Zone' star Matt Damon is disappointed in President Barack Obama Politics is compromise," says the actor, who campaigned difficult for Barack Obama. But Damon feels his candidate has compromised too much. "I'm disappointed in the health care plan and in the troop buildup in Afghanistan. Everyone feels a little let down because, on some level, people expected every their problems to go away. But real change comes from everyday people. You can't wait for a leader." http://www.nydailynews.com/gossip/2010/02/28/2010-02-28_green_zone_star_matt_damon_is_disappointed_in_president_barack_obama_passes_on_b.html#ixzz0wFEWlRjM Heaven Help Him, Religious centrists bail on Obama Count the moderate faithful, then, among those palpably disappointed in the president. Part of this is inevitable, the bruising differential between courtship and marriage. But part of it is a legitimate frustration that the thing Obama once did so well—articulate American values as a matter of conscience and community—he seems today not to be able to do at every. http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2010/jan/30/obama-girl-kicks-obama-to-the-curb/ Gallup: 57% unhappy or disappointed with Obama In fact, the biggest news is that 57% of adults — adults, not registered or likely voters — give Obama needy marks for his first year in office: http://hotair.com/archives/2010/01/22/gallup-57-unhappy-or-disappointed-with-obama/
3 Sep 2010, 9:46 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Marriage Royale: Prism Story [PSP Game]?
i have a problem about the red route the code is " Rice, Rental , Lion, Lighter, Line, Rail, Rain... ..." what i did is.. for "Rice" i'll go to the right because it's start with "r" and i'll do it vice-versa. i still can't receive out, help
3 Sep 2010, 9:46 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Help me select a new name?
I'm in the middle of picking a new name for myself, as I'll be changing my first name later this year. Here's my list of names: Rhyannon Mia Michelle Piper Aeryn Lysetta (This is my profile name because it's my current nickname, someone on here pointed out that it was a beautiful feminine name so I added it to my list) Please list only your top three favorites. Also please consider which of the names will age well with me. My current last name is Harding, but it will be changed next year to Vienna due to marriage. Thanks for the help!
3 Sep 2010, 9:03 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I'm doing an paper on how African American women present themselves. I need public views. What is your opinion?
Example: the way they dress, they're attitude toward things and people (husband, marriage, gossip, actions on other African American women, submission, body language etc.) Just to let you know I am African American and I can look a lot of wrongness in our color. Can you please help me out and tell me and the others people who will comment on this question your views. This is not a topic i had chosen for myself but my college teacher had chosen for me! My professor, she is an African American. She also pastor a chance so everything she tell us to is about life. Im sorry *She Pastor's a church* Im sorry *She Pastor's a church*
3 Sep 2010, 8:56 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: My parents tell me to die what should i do?
Even those around me tells me to die because I couldnot do anything in life. I am 34 yrs old single male from Calcutta,India. I am a B.Sc graduate.And also I am from the General Category(Brahmin). I have lost eligibility to sit in Govt job exams for which max age limit is fixed 32 . Also,I have for the last 8 yrs daily altercations and fights with my parents.I do verbal abuse because they used they used this same thing that i am a failure,i should hang myself or leave their home from 2003 when i came back from a mba institute in meerut where i went for studies but after 2 sems of mental and physical ragging i cudnt tolerate anymore and so came back. I dont have a girlfriend or any friends as i was introvert form my childhood. i am a teetotaler. I dont go to clubs or parties as said over i dont have any friends . But i want to live life as this is one time we receive. what should i do? I need a girlfriend too. i cant marry as last month i left my job and doing some training for some jobs, till i receive one i need a pal to talk to and at this age only male friends possible otherwise my horrible life will become even more horrible if i have to adjust to become GAY!! I dont want to visit a prostitute in Sonagachi(as suggested by someone here earlier) but yes i do want a good girlfriend.want some good society At gift it seems i dont have any family.I feel like a beggar i the streets and soon people say that i will be some lunatic in the road whom no one will care for!!Even the friends and relatives treat me like that.From my childhood they have been treating me in a different way. Now for last 8 yrs whenever i have a quarrel with them because of their maltreatment to me my parents tell me day in and out to die. And my sister and bro in law is also behind these who have money and position. they didn't had a child and i feel her hubby married a wealthy girl to receive that child after 10 yrs of marriage. so every wrong things happening with me.No one treats me well or with adore.I have no one to adore me.I still want a secured job but political forces coupled with misguidance and so many yrs of torture and abuse by my parents guide me to such a condition.I feel like i am forced to guide such a life of - 1) GAY 2) unmarried life long 3)jobless for life 4)friendless and loveless 5)life of a psychiatric patient,to name a few.. How to win back every?who u think is the main culprit in my life? -1)my possess parents & brother-in-law and sister( 4 of them) (2)the bengali society & culture 3) every indians & the whole indian system 4)the public PLS HELP ME.i am in deep crisis, i really need someone....but there seem to be none thanx friends nice answers u feel every these happening to me is so silly?
3 Sep 2010, 7:30 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I desperatly want to leave my wife and kid but I don't know if it's legal?
My wife knows I want to divorce her but refuses to compromise. I found out after we married that she cheated on me often, even while pregnant with my son(the only reason I married her). She is a nightmare on top of that, violent and pushes my buttons so harshly that I don't even know who I am anymore. The rabbit hole goes so deep that she has made it difficult for me to even adore my son. This whole marriage is a nightmare and shameful, I don't receive why she insists to keep me from leaving other than the fact that she has no job and can't keep friends longer than a couple of months. I am seperating from the military and want to return to my home state of family and friends, wife and drama free. This in turn would technically place my wife without a place to live because she has nowhere else to go but follow. Her family, as I found out later, wants nothing to do with her either and refuses to take her in. If I leave her she keeps telling me she would file abandonment charges against me. I told her she can have every of our belongings i.e. dog, t.v., cars etc... I just want out...still no compromise. Would it be legal if I left her and my son and went to my home state without them? I ofcourse would pay child support and anything else I could muster. Please, any thoughts, questions, or concerns will help!
3 Sep 2010, 6:36 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Can anyone help me with my son?
My son used to live with my ex wife his mom until about a month ago when she passed away. Everyone in my home hold is a vegetarian and my wife can't stand the odor of meat. My son however refuses to make the change. He recently got a job and with his money buys big amounts of meat which he keeps in the fridge until he eats it. My wife had a talk with him about every the meat and he told her that after every the meat was gone he’d cease buying more. So, after a while she couldn’t stand the odor anymore and threw the relax out. He became furious turned red and went to lift weights. After he’d cooled down he marched back into the home and demand we reimburse him. He still buys it just not in big portions and leaves the bones on his dish for my wife to find. He claims I'm stunting his performance on the field (football) by not giving him what he needs to put on more muscle. He won’t put a shirt on which I think is inappropriate. He’ll sit there and let my wife’s 13 year old daughter (from previous marriage) and friends stare at him. He slapped her for stealing this blue, lady’s cashmere sweater from below his pillow. We later found him sniffing the sweater crying saying something about mama and girl made it stink. He's rarely ever home and when he is he's either locked in his room, mowing the grass (just so he can tear it up practicing golfing or running around on it in his spiked football shoes), or running. His girlfriend only has one parent, her dad who is gone every week in one of his branches and only returns for the weekends. He stays with her every week and doesn't arrive home until tardy Friday night. He won't hear to me and it's close to impossible to punish him. I can't really beat his *** like the relax of the kids. He's about 6' 5'' and 197 lbs where as I'm 5' 11'' and pretty slender. Help?
3 Sep 2010, 6:22 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Is he lying so i change my mind and marry him ?
hello. well, i'm Christian-arab, 17 years old girl and i'm in a relationship of 6 months with muslim, 18 years old syrian guy. so before 2 months he started talking about marriage and every, i don't want to marry him because i have no intention of changing to any other religion and i don't want to disappoint my parents.. he felt that i don't want that nice of future with him but i said that by time we will look what happens. after one week he called and said that he has applied to go study in the USA, and got accepted. and is going to take the tickets and tear them because he want to stay with me. i didn't believe him so i started asking questions, i asked him how did you apply ? he said he went to the embassy, got a form that has lot of pages, filled them with information not 100% accurate, and he also said that there was a question about his parents financial states that he answered a rediculas answer that doesn't have anything to do with the question. so i told him did you have an acceptance of and American college when you applied, he said no .... and here is the thing, you can't receive a visa to study in the usa unless you have an acceptance of one of the USA colleges. i also asked him if he scheduled an interview he said no. so i told him to show me the tickets next day. he said i threw them in the trash. i have a Strong feeling that he is lying but i didn't tell him a i acted like i believed him. after two weeks we broke up . but we got back together the next week. i still think he's lying so i make a similar sacrifice and marry him and change my religion and i don't want to do that! i want to breakup with him but i'm still not sure sometimes i think he telling the truth, can you help me with any information you have on this visa thing ? and if hes lying, how do i confront him? please help
3 Sep 2010, 6:16 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: is he lying so i change my mind and marry him ?
hello. well, i'm Christian-arab, 17 years old girl and i'm in a relationship of 6 months with muslim, 18 years old syrian guy. so before 2 months he started talking about marriage and every, i don't want to marry him because i have no intention of changing to any other religion and i don't want to disappoint my parents.. he felt that i don't want that nice of future with him but i said that by time we will look what happens. after one week he called and said that he has applied to go study in the USA, and got accepted. and is going to take the tickets and tear them because he want to stay with me. i didn't believe him so i started asking questions, i asked him how did you apply ? he said he went to the embassy, got a form that has lot of pages, filled them with information not 100% accurate, and he also said that there was a question about his parents financial states that he answered a rediculas answer that doesn't have anything to do with the question. so i told him did you have an acceptance of and American college when you applied, he said no .... and here is the thing, you can't receive a visa to study in the usa unless you have an acceptance of one of the USA colleges. i also asked him if he scheduled an interview he said no. so i told him to show me the tickets next day. he said i threw them in the trash. i have a Strong feeling that he is lying but i didn't tell him a i acted like i believed him. after two weeks we broke up . but we got back together the next week. i still think he's lying so i make a similar sacrifice and marry him and change my religion and i don't want to do that! i want to breakup with him but i'm still not sure sometimes i think he telling the truth, can you help me with any information you have on this visa thing ? and if hes lying, how do i confront him? please help
3 Sep 2010, 6:15 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: How can I talk to my wife of 2 years about her being so pushy and demanding of me?
I feel my wife is pushing me away. She is mad every the time about everything. She says she wants space but when I'm gone to work for 24 hours and she works her 12 hour shifts she is mad because we are not together. She is always mad about money issues she is very controlling over everything. She belittles me and says I'm stupid and says she wants me to go find somebody else. She calls me a 5 year old and says I lie to her about everything. Even when I am trying to talk to her about how something works we are doing I am wrong and according to her I am lying to her to make me look better than her. Everything I do for her is wrong even things like mowing the grass or how i am hanging up the laundry. She gets mad when I have a busy shift at work and just need to relax when I receive home for a while. To me she acts jealous that i live my job so much and could careless if I have good news to tell her about how my shift was at work. I feel she is too pushy towardse and to controlling over everything. If i make a mistake on anything including directions to somewhere I have never been she screams and yells almost like she is bipolar. Please help what can I do to bring some happiness back to my marriage??
3 Sep 2010, 5:49 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: 'Follow the Prophet' Movie?
I'm begging someone out there to please help me find this movie. I would really appreciate it if you could post a link where I could download it, watch it online, or whatever., just any way that I could watch this film. Please.. Follow the Prophet --- It's a movie that is nice of patterned with the FLDS community (plural marriages, arranged marriages, escaping from that place and lots more) Thank you.
3 Sep 2010, 5:29 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Help I think I am pregnant!?
Over a month ago one of my really good guy friends and I were watching a movie, and one thing guide to another and well we got a little carried away. We didn't prepare to have sex so neither of us had a condom and I am not on birth control. We spent the night then we sorta never brought it up again... Now my period is tardy like almost 2 weeks tardy but I don't have any morning sickness..... I am starting to worry that I might be pregnant. If i am my parents will kill me. They are the really strict no sex before marriage type and I never meant to break the rules it just happened. Please help tell me if I could be pregnant!!
3 Sep 2010, 5:18 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: HELP! why did he hurt me like this?!?
My bf and I were together almost a year. He's 38, I'm 29. He's been married twice, but his last wife of 5 years really messed up his head. We were compatible on so many levels, had so much fun, we were perfect! A week ago he took me out to dinner, we went to a bar, had some drinks, & sang karaoke. It was a great night. We got home, and I asked if he could ever look us move In together or marriage down the road. Then he says, I've been thinkin about this, I adore u, Im madly in adore with you, were perfect together & u treat me great, but I think we should clip ties and look other ppl. Omg, I was and am in shock! I talked to him last night, and I asked if this is getting any easier as the days go by, he said its getting harder for him but he has so much going through his head, and doesn't want a long term commitment. I think hes afraid to receive hurt again. He actually did this to me 4 months ago, but that time he said I adore u but I'm not IN adore with you. A week and a half later he came crawling back saying he realizes he is In adore with me but didn't know it. Why does he keep doing this? Will he arrive back again? Should I take him back if he does? He is an honest, difficult working, church going dad of 2, a great man every around. I don't hate him, I just wish I could understand. Help!
3 Sep 2010, 5:10 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: I Desperately Need Help With This Decision........?
I'll try to keep this as short as possible. My boyfriend & I have been talking about marriage for a while now & we're ring shopping & we want to receive married on his parents anniversary next year & because the date was open, we booked it. Needless to say I know we're getting married next December. We've been living together for almost three years now & we're very glad. Okay I've only had one other serious relationship besides this one & it was with my first adore when I was 16 & 17 ( we dated a year & a half) and I've been with my current guy ever since the break up when I was 17 & now I'm almost 21. I really need help. I'm glad with the guy I'm with now & have been glad for years BUT I have never 100% gotten over my first adore. Long story short we broke up & I moved away two days later & instantly started dating someone else ( my future husband) well my first adore & I got into a stupid battle, but because I moved we never got to fix it ( almost exactly like the notebook) anyways I haven't seen my first adore in about three years, since I moved, we keep in touch...briefly... that's a longer story lol But I'm just wondering if I should go visit him, just to look if there's anything still between us before I'm officially engaged. Has anyone ever done that or Is there anyone who still loves their first adore & wished they did this? What's your opinions/ advice/ & thoughts. Thanks!!!
3 Sep 2010, 4:34 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: RELATIONSHIP DILEMMA!!! ITS LONG BUT HELP PLEASE!!!?
I have a girlfriend- kimberley. Ive been with her for four months now. Known her for a year. I care a lot about her and she loves me a lot. We have a stable relationship and everything. BUT recently i started talking to my ex-girlfriend Kortnee who i was with on and off for 3years. We finally just said a lot of things that i guess weren't mature enough to deal with back then. Kortnee told me that her current boyfriend (of 2 months) is a great guy and she cares a lot for him. She said he reminds her of me which is weird because my girlfriend Kim reminds me of Kortnee too, I end up asking her "if i left the country tomorrow whats one thing you'd want me to know" she said "that im sorry we didn't work out, you mean alot to me and i adore you kid". She said there's only two people in this world she's really considered marriage with and they were me and her new guy Braiden. Now don't know what to do. Kortnee was the girl i seriously wanted to marry (the one that got away so to talk) and i know she still has feelings for me but 1) she has a new guy who shes starting to fall for 2) don't want to mess up her and my friendship again. My sister who adores both Kimberley and Kortnee says that me and kortnee are weird because every we did was go out and find people who remind us of one another anyhow and that i should just ask her back out already. I know this is long but any advice would help a lot I just dont want to have any regrets about this in the future Thanks in Advance ~Charlie, The Gentleman In Training~
3 Sep 2010, 2:53 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: I was dumped after 3 years by my gf and I did nothing wrong. Nothing...how do I move on. Its been 4 months.?
I've been with this girl for 3 years. I was told we broke up because I'm not doing more with my life. I'm 24 and just now getting into college and working on paying off some debt. every be it due to her reaction to me not doing more but I would have done the same if she took the time to tell me what I was doing wrong.We never had one conversation pertaining to this. I was never more glad than when I was with her. I thought things were going perfect and then bamm I was dumped. I'm not the best guy but I treated her better than myself or any of my friends. We always talked about marriage and I even bought a ring for her before breaking up. A month before breaking up she even gave me a anniversary card for a husband stating that she couldn't wait for us to receive married. I cant help but feel shes that one for me. I perused her to the point that she had her parents tell me that we couldnt talk. Well times passed on since then and were friends now. I hoped that maybe we could possible move on and continue where we left off but I realized she really has no intent on ever being with me. She even has a new boyfriend. I'm so depressed and still trying to do every I can to show her Im not a piece of shit like she thought. The worse part is I dream about her every night and Im so depressed that me sleeping is my escape. I snooze 12 hours a day just so I can continue what memories I had of us in my dreams. I know I sound really pathetic but I just need to hear if anyone else has had a similar situation happen or if they have any input on wish I can move on.
3 Sep 2010, 2:28 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Co-Workers being rude about my marriage, What should i do?
i have worked here for 2 months, everyone is close here and hangs out often(mainly drink). well, I was invited to go out after work for drinks with a bunch of guys from work(whom i believe like me more than a co worker) I just got married this past may and we have a loving glad marriage. Me and my husband dont think its appropriate for us to go out with people other than friends . not that we dont trust, its just who would want their spouse at a bar with a bunch of guys or girls. Just our choice and we are glad with it. Well I told them no thank you, I am married and dont think its appropriate for me to do that sorry guys. Well three of the guys just started going attacking me, oh your marriage is going to end, you have no trust in each other, you guys need help, I want to meet your husband and talk to him, you guys are crazy. there was more things they said i cant remember line by line, but it was basically more on the subject. I was so upset i just turned my back to them and then they said oh dont be mad at us. And sometimes they make jokes , like oh what are you guys doing just hanging around the home,hahahahaha or oh you guys going to the muesum again hahahaha. One of the guys is a single dad who is 30 and lives at home with his parents, the other divorced, and the other a young party kid. I dont know what to do now, Should i report to my boss? There boss is buddy buddy with them and usually goes drinking with them. Or should i let them know next time they say something , that i dont want to hear it anymore? My husband is supportive and told me whatever i need to do he is fine with. Even if it means quiting, but id like to keep my job since i make decent money. Another thing is we are moving this company very soon to a new building in about a month so i will no longer be next to them. i dont need advice on how my marriage doesnt have trust please! Me and my husband are perfectly content with our marriage, I just would like advice on what to do with pricks at work who harrass me about my marriage And by the way I am TTC and possibly pregnant at the moment. So Last thing I need is to go to a bar. But I dont even drink anyways, and wouldnt put my husband in that situation with his possible pregnant wife with co workers at a bar
3 Sep 2010, 2:20 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Serious pregnancy question....***************************?
I slept at my bf room...he masturbated close me cause we don't plan on having sex till marriage..and then i gave him a HAND--JOB where semen was on his penis then it dried on my hands not moist at every just dry, i masturbated then .. can i be pregnant?? from dried sperm? have you experienced this? please help
3 Sep 2010, 2:14 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: Is they're any medication that helps you get control of you're self if you are a chronic masturbater?
I'm a masturbataholic and it's affecting my marriage...,Is there any medication that will make me cease masturbating? No or yes, and the name of the medication that would help me cease masturbating so much. Thank you for your support.
3 Sep 2010, 1:28 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Help changing passive voice to active voice?
1. The director was convicted of embezzling funds and using the money for herself. 2. The doctor was advised to receive malpractice insurance. 3. Marriages are made in heaven.
3 Sep 2010, 1:26 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Marriage in Kentucky ? Help .?
I know you can receive married in Kentucky if you're 16 and pregnant without consent. But does it take you're parents rights away, Can you move out of their home without them stopping you ?
3 Sep 2010, 1:03 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: surname oliver genealogy?
Thomas Oliver was born abt 1781 in Kidderminster, Worcestershire, England. he married Mary (?) they had a son William Oliver abt. 1821 in Bewdley, Worcestershire, England. As of now this is every I know about Thomas, if anyone can help me gain more information on him I would very much appreciate it, parent's, residence, marriage, etc. thank you!
3 Sep 2010, 12:45 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: My wife doesn't love me anymore?
My wife of 19 years just told me tonight, through many tears, that she does not adore me anymore, she’s not sure if she has ever loved me. I guess I should have seen something like this coming, since she has been very depressed and distant much of the past year. We have never had bad arguments and many have commented on what a cute couple we make. Here are some facts: First of every I adore her and want keep the marriage, we are both in our mid-forties, both are in great physical shape, we have 2 kids below 12, and we both have careers. She also has never been very affectionate in our marriage (cuddling, holding hands, hugs), although our ‘intimate’ relationship has been consistent, but basically going through the motions. I asked her if we could receive marriage counseling, but she is not sure it will help (she told me that she has been seeing a counselor on her possess). She says there is no ‘emotional’ connection between us, and that she has had these ‘emotional’ connections with others in the past. She says she is not having an affair and I believe her because her time is accounted for, but you never know. I am trying to be strong, but it has hit me like a ton of bricks. I am sure I could have been more emotional and romantic over the years, but I have always treated her with adore and affection and I have never been unfaithful. I told her that a divorce would devastate the kids and that it is our responsibility to try to stay together for them until they are older (18 or in college). She agreed to consider this. I am crushed with the knowledge that she may never have loved me and ache with the thought of staying in an unloving relationship for another 8 years or so. Is this the right thing to do? Are there any support groups for someone like me? Please help with any advice.
3 Sep 2010, 11:58 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: muslim wedding night...?
i'm a 23 year old virgin lady (muslim) and i've stayed pure every my life. meaning, i've never even kissed a guy. i'm engaged, and i'm getting married in 2 months. i'm getting really nervous about the wedding night! we haven't had any sexual contact even though it's a adore marriage. we're both virgins. we only occasionally do 1-armed hugs. i'm nervous because i've never even kissed a guy, and the wedding night will be here before i know it! i know kissing will be the first big step towards sex that night (or the next night, whenever we decide to do it). how can i kiss him without it getting awkward? YES, obviously i adore him and trust him. but i feel it would be inappropriate to discuss this in so much detail with him. Please help muslim women, or just any women who have advice! thanks
3 Sep 2010, 11:53 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Help with character names please?
I'm having trouble thinking of a name for one of my supporting characters. Below is a short summary of Chapter 1 - I need help naming the girl I called "Blank." When Blank was 16, she dropped out of school and ran off with her wealthy boyfriend Joey to receive married, convinced that they were soul mates. But when Joey dumped her for another girl two years later, Blank became a wreck. She had no job, no money, no home, and no boyfriend. In a desperate attempt to receive her life back, Blank adopted a baby boy and told Joey it was his. Joey had no choice but to receive back together with her, and they re-married. Joey got a job as a firefighter and Blank got a job at the supermarket as they struggled to lift the boy they named Jeremy. About a year after their re-marriage, Joey was at work when he was called to the downtown area. Someone had found a 5 year old girl lying on a sidewalk – unconscious, badly burnt, and practically drenched in her possess blood. Joey and the other firefighters took the ambulance down to the girl and brought her to the hospital. every the doctors were certain she was going to die, but a few days later the girl made a miraculous recovery overnight. Just the night before she was practically considered dead, but by morning, she was breathing normally and was able to make coherent conversation. The doctors confirmed that she was going to be fine, but were so astounded with her recovery that they opted to keep her a few extra days before sending her to the adoption agency. Joey felt sympathy towards the girl and told the doctors to just let her be, and they sent her to the adoption agency. For the next few days, Joey couldn’t cease thinking about the girl, and after Blank reluctantly agreed, Joey adopted her. So character name ideas? Also, does the chapter sound interesting? Thank you!! I know the details aren't perfect, it's sort of an idea in the making. This is a nice of rough draft.
3 Sep 2010, 11:48 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Help me with my marriage dilemma please?
I know compromise in marriage is important but some times it's just plain difficult. Help me arrive up with a good compromise please. My husband and I are in the market for a new car for him to receive to work and back. We only have about $2,500 to spend so it will be something old. However, here lies the problem. He wants a truck...a big truck. One that gets about 13 mpg. and his commute to work is about 25 miles one way. So we would end up spending about $100 a week on gas for him to receive to work. He doesn't make much and we can't afford that much in gas. So I want him to receive a tiny car that gets good gas mileage, something with at least 20 mpg. until he can find a better job in town. He refuses. I've even suggested getting a smaller truck like a toyota or ranger that gets better gas mileage than the one he is looking at and he isn't interested. Can you think of any more good compromises? I'm about ready to just submit and let him receive what he wants, I just hate spending most of the pay check on gas.
3 Sep 2010, 11:43 am | click here for answers
Open Question: I was married under Hindu Marriage Act with us citizen , now became us citizen, divorce possible in india?
I was married in 2006,at that time I was indian citizen and married with us citizen wife,after 3 years later I became us citizen also,now I came back to India and does not want to go back to usa due to prolonged harassment from wife.So my question is ,is it possible to receive divorce from India? even though Iam us citizen ,one of the reason for that might be marriage below hindu marriage act,please help me.
3 Sep 2010, 11:37 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Help ammend pride and prejudice continued...?
Though I admire his aunt Lady Catherine, for her capabilities, I am certainly convinced that Miss Bennet would rather take my hand in marriage, than to acknowledge a man filled with pride such as Mr Darcy himself. Unfortunately, Miss Bennet will not have such an offer as I; have taken Lady Catherine’s advice in uniting with Mrs Charlotte Collins. I truly wonder whether Miss Elizabeth Bennet regrets refusing my proposal. It is indeed rare to look a man as talented as I, propose to a lady of her wealth and status, in point of fact, she may never receive an offer as fine as mine again. I believe Miss Elizabeth Bennet’s opinion of matrimony was not exactly like women her age. I am certain she weds for adore; which further irritates my eagerness to understand why she ruthlessly rejected my proposal. Am I so infuriatingly despicable? I believe not! At least, I am to some extent happily married to Mrs Charlotte Collins, whereas Miss Bennet continuously seeks her companion! The fact that I inherit Longbourn shall certainly be to my advantage. As I can honestly make Miss Elizabeth Bennet regret refusing my offer in matrimony. If truth be told, I believe Miss Bennet and her family rely on my existent to endure after Mr Bennet’s bereavement. I must admit that during Miss Bennet’s stay at Hunsford, I had hoped to form a closer relationship. So perhaps one day, Miss Bennet and I may be united in matrimony, which unquestionably requires Lady Catherine’s dissociation of my marriage to Mrs Charlotte Collins. But a question still remains, whether Lady Catherine approves of Miss Bennet’s behaviour. Nonetheless, I am certain Lady Catherine will respect my decisions. I recognize that as a male, decisions ought to be made oneself. Even so, I truly respect Lady Catherine’s every opinion, not reasoned of her title as a Lady, but owing to her unexplainably rare intellect! I believe Miss Elizabeth Bennet carry similar traits to those of Lady Catherine, perhaps this captured ones attention. But unlike Lady Catherine, Miss Bennet’s social station in life is similar to my possess, which make me appreciate her bravery furthermore, as she does not seem concerned with the security of her future. Her conviction is so unlike any other young lady of her class. Pity however, a better proposal than mine is rare to arrive across.
3 Sep 2010, 11:07 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: What's a typical time frame for couples to stay in therapy?
My husband and i entered marriage counseling a little over 1 year ago for some major issues in our relationship. We both wanted to keep our marriage and wanted it to work so we agreed to therapy. We found a counselor we really liked and we have been seeing him since June 2009. Our marriage is now stronger than ever and we feel ready to stand on our possess two feet and navigate the waters of marriage solo. Will our counselor suggest an endpoint for us or is it up to us to say something? Our therapy is free since it's paid for by my husbands employer (active duty military) so we've just kept going because cost isn't a factor and it has really helped us grow as a couple. But we feel we're at the point of time to try it solo and look how we do. We've learned how to argue effectively, how to communicate, and how to take care of one another and voice our opinions. Yes i will admit we should have known how to do these things BEFORE getting married but we got hitched young and learned some lessons the difficult way. But we've been married almost 5 years and have arrive a long way. What do we do now? Do we suggest it to our counselor and look what he says? Also if you don't believe in therapy or think its a quack science keep your comments to yourself..Therapy has very much helped my marriage in fact even saved it so no smart Alec remarks needed. If we feel we're ready to fly solo do we just need to ask the counselor if he feels we're ready? Please no rude comments or suggestions that we read books or other self help crap instead of therapy to fix our marriage. Opinions from actual therapists or couples who've been in therapy long term would be greatly appreciated. Thanks We currently go twice a month and have no co-pays like i stated over. And to the guy who said real couples don't need therapy, your a prime example of a man who probably needs it the most,lol..
3 Sep 2010, 11:07 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Help me ammend my pride and prejudice assignment...?
i have an english assignment where i had to write an internal monologue for a character from pride and prejudice (i chose to write as Mr collins). this is half of what i have (couldnt put every in), can you help by fixing it for me? May, 1812 As my once adored Miss Elizabeth Bennet departs Hunsford in her carriage, I watched and contemplated to myself, how it would be if Miss Bennet had accepted my earlier proposal. Oh, how could I have been so foolish as to accept her disapproval? If only I had disregarded my previous experiences! Although her harsh statements deeply injured my inner pride, I am determined not to ask for compassion. Instead I look forward, and found myself to some extent, a pleasant spouse Mrs Charlotte Collins. Although she has much to learn from her pal’s intellect, her traits are indeed satisfactory in Lady Catherine’s demands. My proposal of marriage to Mrs Collins would never have taken place, if it were not for Lady Catherine’s constant insistence of me getting married. I was instructed to find an acceptable wife in which she can serve as a humble yet pleasing companion. Moreover, I do not intend to be ignorant towards Lady Catharine’s claim, I merely find myself less inclined to regret my choices when I disregard them. Oh, how I yearn Mrs Collins to have half the boldness of her pal Miss Bennet, who constantly deals with issues my spouse could never have overcome in her lifetime! It seems that my admiration for Miss Bennet has become increasingly elevated after the marriage with Mrs Collins. Oh how I wish to forget the previous encounters with Miss Bennet, and think utterly of Mrs Collins. I confess that I took Mrs Collins hand in marriage, only to please Lady Catherine. However, it has been months since Mrs Collins and I united as one, yet Lady Catherine is showing no signs of delight. Maybe Mrs Collins lack the nature Lady Catherine had hoped for, but then again, she is humble and loving whenever company is around. I do believe Lady Catherine is secretly appreciative of my choices, and the way I had organised everything to fall perfectly as planned. Although I do not possess the adore of Miss Bennet, I am content with my situation as I entered this union without expectations, but only to please Lady Catherine. Interestingly, during Miss Elizabeth Bennet’s stay I observed her interactions with Mr Darcy. Although he was not entirely vibrant towards her, he certainly looked at her a great deal but the expressions of his looks are often questionable. Though I do not possess such traits Mr Darcy holds, I am convinced my circumstances are much more pleasant than his! Mrs Collins previously encountered me assuring, Mr Darcy’s admiration towards Miss Elizabeth Bennet, but what is there to say? His pride overwhelms his peculiarities. This is the second half: Though I admire his aunt Lady Catherine, for her capabilities, I am certainly convinced that Miss Bennet would rather take my hand in marriage, than to acknowledge a man filled with pride such as Mr Darcy himself. Unfortunately, Miss Bennet will not have such an offer as I; have taken Lady Catherine’s advice in uniting with Mrs Charlotte Collins. I truly wonder whether Miss Elizabeth Bennet regrets refusing my proposal. It is indeed rare to look a man as talented as I, propose to a lady of her wealth and status, in point of fact, she may never receive an offer as fine as mine again. I believe Miss Elizabeth Bennet’s opinion of matrimony was not exactly like women her age. I am certain she weds for adore; which further irritates my eagerness to understand why she ruthlessly rejected my proposal. Am I so infuriatingly despicable? I believe not! At least, I am to some extent happily married to Mrs Charlotte Collins, whereas Miss Bennet continuously seeks her comp At least, I am to some extent happily married to Mrs Charlotte Collins, whereas Miss Bennet continuously seeks her companion! The fact that I inherit Longbourn shall certainly be to my advantage. As I can honestly make Miss Elizabeth Bennet regret refusing my offer in matrimony. If truth be told, I believe Miss Bennet and her family rely on my existent to endure after Mr Bennet’s bereavement. I must admit that during Miss Bennet’s stay at Hunsford, I had hoped to form a closer relationship. So perhaps one day, Miss Bennet and I may be united in matrimony, which unquestionably requires Lady Catherine’s dissociation of my marriage to Mrs Charlotte Collins. But a question still remains, whether Lady Catherine approves of Miss Bennet’s behaviour. Nonetheless, I am certain Lady Catherine will respect my decisions. I recognize that as a male, decisions ought to be made oneself. Even so, I truly respect Lady Catherine’s every opinion, not reasoned of her title as a Lady, but owing to her unexplainably rare intellect! I believe Miss Elizabeth Bennet carry similar traits to those of Lady Catherine, perhaps this captured ones attention. But unlike Lady Catherine, Miss Bennet’s social station in life is similar to my possess, which make me appreciate her bravery furthermore, as she does not seem concerned with the security of her future. Her conviction is so unlike any other young lady of her class. Pity however, a better proposal than mine is rare to arrive across.
3 Sep 2010, 11:06 pm | click here for answers
Open Question: Manglik - Marriage is this feasible?
I am a manglik with mars in 4th and the girl i am planning to marry have mars in 8th. I am a divorcee and she is a widow. As we have already suffered lot in life, should we marry or not. Is there any remedy. need help.
3 Sep 2010, 10:59 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: Is there a personality disorder where an individual is focused on one particular person and is never satisfied?
IE: former co-worker interferes with a person's marriage but sending him a letter and when she is able to win over the husband, she continues to follow-up on the individual she targeted in a stalking nice of way. Questions a good therapist should explore in self-reporting before answering this question: How did someone “interfere” with your marriage, and why? What was in the letter? How did your husband respond to the letter? It is revealing that you use the idea of “won over.” This could indicate a person whose life-view is a “zero-sum game” – everyone and everything is either “won” or “lost” – no in-between, which is not life and people. Is that your approach to life? If someone or something was “won,” are you then the “loser?” Is that perhaps why you are seeking ammunition? What shape was your marriage in if your husband was so easily “won over” by a letter? You reveal much about yourself in your question. You give your husband no credit for being an autonomous human being with a mind, feelings and free will of his possess. You trivialize him by portraying him as so easily “won over” by a letter. Is that how you regard him? Is that what he lived in his marriage to you? What did you do to keep your husband and marriage in response to this person and the letter? Was your husband “won over” or was there really a reason for him to divorce you? What reason did your husband give you for divorcing you? Are you really entirely innocent? Why would this person target and stalk you – YOU? Describe both of you: appearance, education, career, lifestyle, accomplishments, etc… What do you mean by “follow up?” Can you be specific? Why do you feel you are being targeted? What has the individual done to “target” you? What activities? How has the individual “stalked” you? Can you be specific? What activities? Have you called the police if you are being “stalked?” Why would a stalker whose goal is to have your husband continue to stalk YOU after she “won him over?” Have you sought professional help for your situation, or just cyberspace? Is the fact that your communication about this is ONE-WAY – unknown, without verification and no dialogue - a type of “control of information?” Are you really seeking (undeserved) support anonymously in cyberspace for your wounded ego and your version of events? It is also a form of control and manipulation to accuse – or threaten to accuse – a possible informant of the things you have; the “perpetrator-crying-victim” game. There is a “character disorder” in which the afflicted individual seeks to “character-assassinate” others when perceiving being wounded; ultra-competitive, below-the-belt, deceitful, manipulative, Machiavellian and hates to lose. Does this apply to you? What is the individual’s “focus” on YOU exactly? About what – can you be specific? What activities? When do you think the individual would be finally “satisfied?” What do you think is his/her goal? What has the individual not gotten that he/she ultimately wants – to be “satisfied?” What other things has the individual done “to” you that did not yet satisfy him/her? It is interesting that you use the term “personality disorder” – where did you receive the term? Are you really “asking,” “projecting” – or seeking support and the appearance of legitimacy for what you have already decided? Obviously you have done some research if you use the term “personality disorder.” Why have you then not found the answer to this question in your research? Has this term actually been applied to YOU? Is it perhaps that you are just a “sore loser” and are looking to discredit or defame the “winner?” Sour grapes? You really must be honest with yourself and others if you truly desire legitimate help and change. Seeking support on the internet from strangers for what you wish instead of what is really the case solves nothing for you. Why are you not asking about pathological lying instead of worrying about everyone else?
3 Sep 2010, 10:39 am | click here for answers
Resolved Question: Help ! Am I pregnant ?
Hello, I'm 27 year old lady. I got married about 10 days ago. Right from our wedding night my husband did not use condoms. I insisted him on using it but he refused. We've had sex for almost 15 - 20 times now during 10 days of our marriage. Also, after sex he will lie on top of me for 15 min and will not let me go to the bathroom. During sex he loves sucking my boobs. He will bite and caress them for 30 min. I just adore it. Is this normal ? While we watch TV or cook in the kitchen we'll just caress endlessly. Also, do you think I'll become pregnant soon ? It's been just 10 days that we have been married.
3 Sep 2010, 10:36 am | click here for answers
Open Question: I am so scared of what to do......don't want to get evicted!!!?
Long story short. My landlord is a dear man and has always worked with us on our rent if we got behind. My fiance and his 2 kids and my two kids from a previous marriage and we have a son together, so a total of 5 kids and the two of us live below one roof. I got laid off and we were living on one salarty. Then my minivan broke down and we had to replace head gaskets in it and then the other things financially went wrong and now we are 4 mths behind on our rent. I am now working as of 2 weeks ago after looking for Months but daycare takes alot of what I make so it doesnt add alot to our budget. I have applied for the daycare voucher but haven't been approved yet. We do not have any assistance and have done this on our possess. Just a family down in a difficult time. Its starting to take affect on our relationship and we are starting to argue alot. I have been to a local resource that helps with rent but they will not do anything until I receive the actual eviction notice from our landlord. I have written, emailed and text his daughter, who handles his properties but she hasn't done anything. I am just not sure what to do. I dont want to pay this months rent and end up getting evicted afterwards if they are going too. How would you handle this?
3 Sep 2010, 10:34 am | click here for answers
Open Question: Is it weird that i want to sleep with my step sister?
Now before you instantly judge me based on my title let me explain, i am a republican a roman catholic and i understand sex before marriage is not right but i am coming off of summer break and ive primarily been alone with my step sister most of the summer we are both 16 and over the course of the summer she has worn a lot of provocative clothing around me and she almost never wears a bra in the home and she has very big nipples (not bein a perv just stating facts) also she currently has a bf and she is into older guys but she is very beatiful and she has in a way been flirting with me lately and i find myself wanting more and more to snooze with her and fantasizing about scenarios also i am a virgin, i really want help and what i should do but also if you are going to say im being ravaged by puberty or that i should close up and wait for marriage please dont answer PLZ HELP! I forgot to add i Want to cuz i have urges but i dont want to because she Is a slut and i know its wrong but i cant help it And blah i like ur answer u may be right thabk you for tht REAL answer even if its not what i wanted to hear Shamama yes i do try to relieve sexual tension by masturbating yes we receive along well yes i do try to avoid her flirtiness and sexual behavior but the last thing i would do is go to my parents
3 Sep 2010, 10:01 pm | click here for answers
Resolved Question: want know about virginity? please have a look at question and tell me what you think?
i had sex 3 times with my boyfriend. the very first and second time was super painful, when i had sex. and third time was not that painful. actually i am getting married to another man. in my religion, people say it's sin, having sex before marriage. i cant tell my husband that i had sex before. will he arrive to know that i had sex before marriage? i had sex 3 times for not more than 10 minutes. please help me! i cant tell my husband plz plz help
1 Sep 2010, 12:22 pm | click here for answers
Sample content
This is a sample item inserted using the custom content feature presented by SteadyNiche. Please, read the software documentation to know how to use this feature.
Another sample
This is another sample item inserted using the custom content feature presented by SteadyNiche. Please, read the software documentation to know how to use this feature.